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2012年10月21日 星期日

Women and Sexual Health


Good sexual health isn't just about sexual intercourse. Women should know that sexual health encompasses many other aspects like understanding how your body works, knowing what turns you on and what puts you off, accepting your sexual desires and sexual orientation, choosing a form of sexual expression that you are comfortable with, and knowing how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases (STD s) and unwanted pregnancies.

Women should understand that sexual health begins with accepting your sexuality. Our earliest perceptions of sex are inculcated in childhood by our parents' and society's attitude towards it. Until recently, talking about sex was taboo. So, children, especially females perceive that sex is not a good thing. They hear the disapproving voices discussing homosexuality and they subconsciously register that as well. These false ideas infiltrate into adulthood and can be a mental hurdle to good sexual health. It could lead to feelings of shame or guilt when indulging in sexual activities, a reluctance to fully explore sexual potential, or a negative approach to sex. Your sexuality is an integral part of who you are. By accepting your desires, women can positively enhance their sexual experiences and create a healthier self-image.

As a women and an individual, you should never indulge in anything you are uncomfortable with, especially when it comes to sex. Putting up with sexual activities that hurt, embarrass or humiliate is just plain wrong. If you know what you want from a sexual relationship, and you understand what excites you and gives you pleasure and what doesn't, it empowers you to control your sexuality and choose a form of sexual expression that you are comfortable with.

Good sexual health also means protecting yourself from sexually transmitted diseases (STD s). Women can talk to a trusted gynecologist regarding any fear, doubts and inhibitions they may have. Learning about the various types of STDs and how to prevent them, knowing how to determine if you have one, and what to do if you are infected, is a very important aspect of sexual health. Women should have complete knowledge about STD's to prevent them from any heath risk.

Sexual health is as important as physical or mental well-being. Women can better the quality of their life by fully exploring and understanding their sexuality.




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2012年10月20日 星期六

Online Relationship Counseling - Asking Your Therapist For Help


Counseling has been a profession for a long time now. As society grows, so do the problems that it faces. With so many connections and relationships, it is inevitable that people will face problems. To sort out these problems, one may or may not need professional help. Generally speaking, people feel that family and personal problems should remain within the home itself. This line of reasoning is not only old-fashioned but rather more devastating to the family as on is literally shutting out any avenue for help with which one could probably save their relationship. This is where online relationship counseling helps those people who are reluctant to go visit counselors physically.

Visiting counselors for help is quite the norm these days, but what does one do if they feel reluctant or maybe sometimes even shy in visiting a counselor. Online relationship counseling is the safest avenue they can take and was basically designed to provide a sense of security and privacy to people who would rather not visit a counselor physically. Since, providing the real details of your identity is not a must online, many feel that it is safe and private.

Online relationship counseling may be the latest brainchild of the Internet, but as always there are many flaws and issues one has to address before planning a counseling session online. The basic issue is of authentication. The Internet is a haven for scams and lies and one has to take care in choosing which site one would like to enroll with for their sessions. As it goes, counseling sessions are costly and for the money that one spends for the sessions, so one expects quality. To ensure this, one has to do some research before one settles for a site. The first thing one has to ensure is that the therapists on the website are renowned counselors. Many counselors, who also run clinics, provide online counseling sessions for renowned websites.

Each website provides records and credentials of the therapists that work with them and these are easily accessible from the website. What one needs to do is to check these credentials and try to ensure their legitimacy by checking the directories that are maintained by the State and which contain the list of al professionally practicing counselor. Another technique is to look into the testimonials and reviews that are left with each site as record of proof of successful counseling sessions. A counselor should be well experienced in all forms of mental health fields such as physiology, psychiatry, chiropractic and naturopathic medicine, marriage and family counseling. A counselor should always provide impartial advice and a counselor who immediately suggests divorce as the last option is best worth changing. Read more at http://www.savemarriagecounseling.com

Online relationship counseling may be a new concept but it has been found to be very successful with mostly young couples who feel shy in visiting a counselor physically. Though each session may not be successful, counseling has been found to help. A little sacrifice from each party could literally do wonders for the relationship.




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Footprints In Cyberspace - Are You Following Bad Advice From False Gurus?


Grab your favorite beverage and get ready to have your life and business changed for the better, starting right now. This article is about Internet Marketing with a consience, and I have some advice for you that you will either completely agree with, or you may call me a "goodie two shoe" marketer", whatever that is...

One of my favorite sayings is: "Be wary of giving advice, wise men don't need it, and fools won't heed it". Obviously I must be a fool, because I try to advise people in the hopes of breaking through some mental barriers and changing a life. However, this article is meant to inspire you to greater heights with your business using some of the sagest advice I've ever heard.

There is a wealth of knowledge to be gleaned from the religious texts of this world. There is one story (parable) that strikes me as relevant to the philosophy of marketing with integrity and that is the story of the Footprints in the Sand. I will paraphrase the story to avoid mis-statements and will strive to keep the general message clear.

In the parable of Footprints in the Sand a person sees his life as footprints in the sand. When times were good, and thing were going well, there were 2 sets of footprints. One was the man's footprints, and the other was his Ally (again, paraphrasing here). At times there was only 1 set of footprints in the sand, and this represents the tough times in the man's life when he experienced strife and pain. The man said to his Ally, "Why is it that when times went bad for me there was only 1 set of footprints in the sand? Why did you abandon me when things were going poorly? I thought you were my Ally!" His Ally responded, "it was during those times of your greatest need and your greatest pain that I carried you...that's why there is only 1 set of footprints in the sand".

When times are tough, it seems like your friends disappear and your calls don't get answered. When times are tough it seems like you are all alone and with nobody to lean on for support. When you're slugging it out in the trenches trying to find what works for your business and your family members are telling you to stop wasting your time with internet marketing, you are not alone! It's times like this when you know who your real friends are and that your greatest Ally has never left you, ever.

What can your greatest Ally be with regards to doing business online? Integrity can be your closest Ally, if you follow this way of thinking. Integrity begets self-esteem and these 2 Allies (integriy and self-esteem) will be there with you and for you through the toughest of times, even when everyone and every thing seems to have abandoned you.

Now, this article is about marketing with integirty, which makes me want to dispel a few myths that are widely propagating my internet marketing gurus. Have you ever heard the old marketing adage "Fake It 'til You Make It"? It's probably one of the worst pieces of marketing advice I have ever heard.That's the advice many gurus and coaches are giving their close friends who start Internet marketing. They tell their underlings or mentoring students you must position yourself as an expert in order to be looked up to as a knowledgeable person in the field of XYZ, whatever it is they're selling.

This makes sense on the outset, because the "newbies" look up to the gurus. The weak admire the strong. The unhappy see the happy folks as having the "secret" The dumb kids in class think the smart kids know everything about everything. People look to the alleged experts for advice, but are they getting expert advice? Here's a common example of something that happens every day:

People join network marketing companies for opportunities thinly disguised as products for sale. The typical scenario with most network marketing companies, especially the wealth and health-related ones, is that they say, "we have great products here that really work....but you could attain health and wealth if you promote the opportunity, too". That is rubbish! Try the products and see if they work to achieve integrity with your marketing. Don't sell the dream, sell the reality (albeit with an emphasis on WIIFM, what's in it for me).

Before promoting a product, find out if they work for you. Did they actually help you? If so, enjoy marketing that opportunity with integrity. Your enthusiasm will shine through and your optimism will increase your sales. You will become an Internet marketing success simply by having some integrity. However, if you "Fake It 'til You Make it", then you're following what everyone else does. You are a false prophet, guru, marketer, or whatever you want to call yourself. If you follow this bad advice, you join the incestuous world of the blind leading the blind.

I also predict that you will end up a very dissatisfied person and marketer, if you follow this way of thinking. Will you really enjoy the type of success that comes with selling the un-reviewed and untested product/dream? I guess you could if you're at rationalizing your behavior. Just remember that karma is going to take a big bite out of your rear end if you follow this no-integrity marketing philosophy.

Do you have integrity?


You will become a larger person in a spiritual sense if you do...
You will become more successful if you do
You will separate yourself from other businesses if you do.

Do not "Fake It 'til You Make It"... and do not take this piece of advice. There's no integrity in it.

This brings me to the next piece of "conventional wisdom that rubs me raw, gets under my skin, is false, yet is widely propagated by gurus and marketers everywhere. The next cliché/fallacy is "content in King". Content is merely words on paper, recorded voices, and bits and byes on web pages. Good content is King, Queen, Empress, Emperor, Tsar, Tsarina etc.... Good Content comes from Good Sources. Good Sources are borne via their single set of Footprints in the Sand. The trials these Good Sources go through to attain their expertise forge their integrity. This makes them true experts, and makes them believable. Their words have power because they come from a good source.

Have you ever heard the expression, "consider the source"? This is usually said about someone that cannot back up what they say, and whatever they write, or speak, it's taken with "a grain of salt". Like we examined in the first example above of "Faking It 'til You Make It", this type of person is not believable because they cannot attest to the truthfulness of the statement they put forth. They haven't lived it, breathed, or experienced it. They're faking it by telling you what they think you want to hear.. Good Sources create Good Content which leads to good income!

Here's an example of how good content is always the winner. There are people making 6-figure incomes from blogs simply by reviewing products they tested and wrote reviews for on their blog. They are experts at what they do, they're considered authority figures in that niche, and they worked hard to get there. However, if they write a favorable review just to get some sort of kickback or affiliate commissions, they won't see too many repeat customers or get repeat traffic to their blogs.

They will have burned their bridges and they "sold their soul for a donut hole" if they make an unreviewed recommendation for the sole purpose of profit. They risked their reputation by writing about something about which they knew nothing or they gave a favorable review for something just for some quick bucks. What they lost was everything, expert status, repeat customers, respect, and yes, integrity. What they gained was a donut hole. Nothing.

Good content in king and it comes from good sources who spent years attaining their expert status. I want you to be a leader some day and you can do this if you make you are willing to see a single set of footprints once in a while. If you want to play follow the leader temporarily that's OK, too. Just follow the right leader, i.e. a Good Source

Which brings me to the next piece of advice from gurus that gets under my skin, which is: "If you do exactly as I tell you, you are guaranteed to succeed" That is so not true! Yes, there are certain basic fundamentals that everyone needs to succeed in life and business but anyone can tell you these basic steps. This type of information is freely available on the Internet and is valuable if coming from a good source. However, the one thing I have experienced is that many mentors and gurus will tell you to follow their footprints to success and do what they did to succeed. This doesn't work because you need to make your own Footprints in the Sand and you need to develop as a person.

I've been through 2 paid-for coaches and 1 coach who gave advice freely. This is my experience with this, and there's no greater teacher than experience. The more I paid these coaches, the better the advice was. However, everything of value that I learned came during the times when there was only a single set of Footprints in the Sand. Late nights slaving away at web pages, web sites, writing articles, content creation, Help Desk tickets etc... Those are the times when I learned something nobody could take away from me. I learned from expereince what my true strengths were, and what it was that I really wanted to do. Looking back at those miserable times of frustration and failure, I can see their worth.

The intestinal fortitude required to get through those times was created with a single set of footprints in CyberSpace. The lasting effect these times had on me resulted in footprints in cement that molded me into what I am today. Today, I consider myself a Peaceful Warrior who knows that the real battles are fought on the inside. There was a book given to me called The Way Of The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman. He emphasizes this point and many others. Here is another example of where his true wisdom shines: When he talks about a healthy diet, he doesn't say, "be a vegetarian" or "don't eat this, that or the other thing". He admits that even he doesn't know your body like you do, therefore all he can advise is a healthy balanced diet and some daily exercise.

Only you know what will work for you, and the wise ones know this and will tell you this. That's why when you hear a guru or coach say, "Follow my cut-and-paste blueprint for Internet riches" you must be wary of the product or program. You have to make your own success happen, nobody can do it for you and it won't work if it doesn't align properly with your likes, dislikes and talents. Your battle is not a lack of knowledge nor a lack of tools. Your battle is within and only you can find your way out of the swimming pool that represents "everybody else". To break way from the pack, to become hugely and truly successful, you need to walk "alone" for a while, and a good coach can be your Ally here, if you choose wisely.

Here is another example of why you should not follow a strictly defined avenue to success. Have you ever heard of Bruce Lee? He's one of the most advanced martial artists of all time. Many of his teachings are still ahead of our time and one thing he is credited with inventing is a martial art called Jeet KuneDo. Loosely translated, Jeet Kune Do means "the way of no way". This became a hugely popular "art form" and people were successful with it even though it defied some long standing philosophies taught by other martial arts schools. But it works well for those who try it because it plays to their strengths. This martial art is no better than any other. Other art forms may be exactly what people are seeking or other art forms could emphasize certain aspects that practitioners can "dial into".

"Follow me and do exactly as I say to succeed" doesn't work well unless you're exactly like the mentor teaching you, an extreme rarity in this world filled with 100% unique people, talents, and strengths. Your single set of Footprints in Cyberspace is the Way of No Way, the True Path to Your Success. "Do whatever gets the job done and gets you from point A to point B." That is the way of the Dan McGonagle and it can be your way, too.

Here's another popular saying that I have to disagree with: "You will become poor as a marketer teaching people how to fish. Sell the fish" To me, that equates to selling incomplete solutions to people. This means offering something that doesn't really address the need but simply emphasizes the need for yet another product. There are a lot of marketers doing this because this is what sells. Aspiring marketers give people what they want and what they seem to want the most. This is justified by some when they say: "Hey, it sells, I'm just giving them what they obviously want. If I don't sell it to them they'll buy it form somebody else..."

How is this different from the rationale employed by drug dealers? Don't they use the same rationale? Don't they sell whatever seems to sell well without regard for their customers? I am pretty confident in saying those people don't lead normal peaceful lives. I am pretty confident in saying they only enjoy momentary happiness with their proceeds. I am also pretty confident that their businesses are not built for the long haul.

It's considered good marketing to "upsell" and "side sell" people and I realize that, and I do it. There isn't one product that you're going to find that will address all of your needs right away. However, the real goal here is to have your product benefit your customer in some way, and for the product to deliver as promised, and to live up to the words on the sales page.

Here's another way to become successful as an Internet marketer and how to become a true expert. This is so simple yet many people don't do it because it seems like work. If you follow this integrity-laced marketing method, you will succeed in ways you never imagined. What's the method? Simple.. Try the product before you recommend it. How many marketers actually experimented with the products they're touting in these massive product launches you see every so often? Every time that I bought a product that was highly touted by gurus in some product launch, I bought from them based on their reputation.

If the product was a piece of junk I voted my disapproval with my unsubscribe button. Being the type of person that I am, I wait for the hype to subside before I recommend, or don't recommend a product to my readers. I'm busy implementing the strategies outlined in these products and am actually reviewing these products before I make a decision on it. There's a danger to doing this though... When the hype subsides and the fever pitch is gone, you stand less of a chance to make sales because the best time to "make sales" is during the product launch. If you end up recommending the product after testing it first, your conversion rate will be less. You also risk the chance of seeming like a Johnny-come-lately who isn't "with it". In the long run, you gain from this by building a relationship with your list based on trust.

For example, there was a product launch recently for an AdWords product that really was very good. I was lucky to get an advance copy of the report and suggested some changes to be made to it since it was missing a few key elements. Product owners don't like to hear that their products are lacking in any way therefore they didn' t make the changes. So I made up for what I considered the missing information in that report by writing a 2 page report filled with tips on AdWords and pay-per-click marketing. I didn't make a ton of sales for this product but I also felt happy with what I did.

What is going to last longer for you, money or satisfaction with yourself? If you answer correctly, you will have a constant ally in any tough times you face, and eventually you will have what most marketers desire: a following. Money comes and goes quickly, but satisfaction with self lasts forever. Moving forward, I now have the basis for my own product on Adwords. Right now it's only 2 pages long, but as I gain new experiences my knowledge increases and soon I will have the basis for a complete solution that I can put out there in my name as a true expert, with no stones left unturned.

There are too many people faking it, and too many marketers selling what they don't understand. Market with pride and integrity and you will always have an ally. Footsteps in Cyberspace isn't all about integrity or getting through hard times due to poor sales or a lack of progress. It is really the way business should be conducted everywhere. The longer you practice "integrity marketing" the more knowledgeable you become. The more knowledgeable you become, the closer you come to being an Expert. The closer you come to being an Expert, the closer to a real Guru you become. When you are a true guru at something, you will realize that the path to your success was paved by your footprints, but you were never alone, not ever.

Remember what integrity marketing and Footprints in Cyberspace is all about and remember that adhering to these principles will get you to the top. You will deserve every ounce of your success if this is the path you chose.

Here's another cliché that I'm about to destroy: Good Guys Finish Last... Not TRUE. Good Guys And Gals Finish First Every Time. Here's why: Have you ever heard of the 80/20 principles that 20% of your efforts will bring 80% of your income? Let's put this into real world perspective, into words marketers understand: You'll make 80% of your income from 20% of your list, 20% of your marketing efforts, 20% of your websites, 20% of your web pages, products etc..

How do you get more of the 20% accomplished, what is the 20% and where does it come from? It comes from being real with people, form being nice to people, and from establishing a real connection with people. Can this be accomplished by creating really good products? Yes, but how many people do you know that have unread or unopened digital products on their computers?

How many marketers have received the following email: "Hi, I'm really interested in buying your product, will it really help me? I'm on a fixed income and have been trying for 2 years without much success. What do I do and where do I start?" Etc.... Once in a while it pays to send this person a freebie, a free product. Seriously, it costs you nothing to email them a complementary product, right? Does this mean you give away all your products? No, that would be stupid and not everyone appreciates free stuff, because they abide by the old adage that "you get what you pay for".

Give away an occasional free copy of one of your products to gain good faith. Every once in a great while this type of person turns into a raving fan and becomes one of your 20%. Stupid idiot moron marketers finish last, not Good guys and gals. Another way to get more connected with your readers and listener sis to encourage participation, via surveys, teleseminars, webinars, whatever you want to call them. You can also personalize your message to them. Use the word "you" a lot. Use it without actually saying it. Make the reader or listener feel like you are actually talking to them.

Which sentence works for you best? "Hey anonymous group of people I sell stuff to, buy this" or "Hello Daniel, How are things going? We got buried with snow this weekend up here in Boston and my back is hurting for certain. Anyways, Daniel there is a new report out about XYX by PERSON'S NAME that is pretty good. I recommend you take a look at it if you need to get traffic to your sites quickly and easily. Daniel, if you live in a warm climate, please keep me in your thoughts and have a nice cold drink for me. We're about to get 8 more inches tomorrow. Here's that link again it's a pretty good read and a very comprehensive guide to traffic generation for an expert in the field. Thanks, Personal Message Sender"

That's how you get your 20%,and that's how Good Guys and Gals Finish First. Please remember though that if your product is under 9 dollars and people are stressing out about that, then they are probably never going to succeed. There is a whole heck of a lot more money that they're gonna have to spend and a lot more "frogs to kiss" before they "get it". That's if they ever get "it"...

Here the last piece of widespread advice that is commonly propagated: "Shoot for the stars, aim high" OK, Mr. Guru, I'm going to aim high like you said. Now me, a person with little or no business skills, is going to aim high and shoot for the stars.. Ready? I'm gonna make $50k/month in 3 weeks by making money online. That's right, me. I have little or no business skills, have never run a business before, don't even know what a business is, but I'm gonna do it because you tell me it can be done if I just aim high enough..."

Shoot for the stars? Aim high? Are you kidding me? Show me someone who has achieved this gargantuan success with little or no developed business skills and I'll eat every bit and byte of this article.... Aim high? No Set realistic goals? YES You see, this is the setup that they're framing you for. If these legends of marketing tell you its possible, and it doesn't happen for you like they described, it must be your fault, right? After all it worked for them, was easy for them, and seems like it was effortless for them to produce these results, if these results actually occurred for them. Maybe you need another product that will do it for you then.

That's the hook. They tell you anything is possible and quickly if you only aim high enough, and if you believe this tripe, then their next sales page will convert better for them. Here's what you're not being told (by the way you'll realize this on your way OUT of the swimming pool, but not while you're in it swimming around aimlessly): Their results are based on Having huge lists, cultivating their lists, possessing good business skills, writing a good email to that list and having great copy on their sales pages or web sites.

How do you get the success the obviously enjoy or purport to enjoy? Let's break it down one by one: Huge lists are built up over time Cultivating their lists means there is a relationship they nurtured over time Writing a good email to that list is a skill obtained over time. Having great copy on their sales pages or web sites is also skill obtained or purchased. Don't shoot for the stars. Instead, set realistic goals and achieve them. Do this enough times and you will have achieved a larger goal with even noticing it.

One saying that many good coaches have is that you should treat big success like "eating an elephant", And how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time, not all at once. Sound ridiculous, but there's wisdom in those words. I know, I've been there. Here's my evolution as a newbie who turned into a true entrepreneur. As a newbie, I was lucky to have one "failed" offline business under my belt. That was my high school diploma for business in the real world. I made my first few dollars online somehow, through trial and error and perseverance through about 20 different programs (single sets of footprints in Cyberpsace).

I earned more money, but got stuck trying to see which business model works best for me, which required more trial and error (single sets of footprints in Cyberpsace) After that I became an intermediate marketer making a full time income online but with no idea how to make more of this "success". At this point I considered myself an intermediate marketer and got some coaching but these coaches taught their styles and blueprints. At this point I learned that I have to do what works for me, and its not anything those mentors were doing.

Now, as an advanced marketer I have discovered the secret to 7-figure annual and 5-6 figure monthly income and am pursuing that ideal. Hmm, funny how the end goal was to get to a 7-figure annual salary but I didn't get there until I set, met and achieved realistic goals. I am so glad I set realistic goals and took bite size chunks of reality!

Here's another real-world example that I would like to share: I ran 2 consecutive Boston Marathons. Well actually it was more like I ran/walked them. Your path to success is very much like a marathon. It is a journey, not a race. When I got the idea into my head to run a marathon, I had little experience running long distance. The longest distance I had ever run was 5 miles, and I got up to 12 miles before I ran my first marathon with my friend Chris. I ran/walked my way to the finish line in under 5 hours, not bad for a first timer. When I got to the finish line, I was prouder of myself than I had ever been in my life. I reached my goal, but the arrival at the finish line wasn't my reward.

My reward was the journey and what it taught me about myself. I learned a little bit more about myself every time I went from walking to running again. My reward was the "measure of the man" that was taken during those grueling hours on the road. There is no greater reward than gaining a true sense of yourself during the trying times. Your reward is waiting for you in the single set of footprints Your reward will be life-changing, like mine was for me. Your success lies in the single set of Footprints in Cyberspace.

When I ran the Boston Marathon, I did it to raise money for charity. I raised over $500.00 and had the support of my family, friends, and co-workers. However, during the long 26.2 miles that I endured, that support was meaningless to me. I could not count on their support to urge me forward, or to get moving again. There was only a single set of footprints then, and it was only due to my Ally that I got through the race. The euphoria of finishing my second marathon didn't last as long as the first, but to this day, the experience has changed me forever.

Now, there are some warnings I would like to give you here. Running extensive miles on a body that is not used to running those types of distances will do damage to your body. I wasn't really prepared to run this race, and my knees suffered some permanent damage from asking too much of them in a short time frame. I don't mind though, because every time my knees act up I'm reminded of why they are so rickety, and how they got to be in such bad shape.

Another one of my favorite sayings is: "The unexamined life is not worth living." It's during the times of the single sets of footprints that we examine who we are as people and what we're really made of. There's no passing or failing grade here, you simply take measure of who you are. Set realistic goals and achieve them, then move on. Running 2 marathons with little experience wasn't very realistic, but the little experience I had helped me to the finish line. Since I tried to do too much with a body that wasn't prepared for it, my knees suffered, but I managed to finish the race, and you get to your finish line if you set realistic goals.

I'm from the Boston, Massachusetts area and we had something going on called the Big Dig, a multi-billion dollar construction project that was the first of its kind to have ever been done. There was a sign that greeted the passersby where they were most likely to see it and it read: "Rome wasn't built in a day. If it was, we would have hired their contractor". Your online empire will not be created overnight, but it will be created, have no doubts about that. I would not have been able to write to you about my experiences and my reality had I not taken my own Footprints In Cyberspace.

Thank You Ally, Integrity, and Reality, and Thank You for reading this. It means a lot to me that you read this whole article. If you enjoyed it or would like to leave some feedback, please visit http://danielmcgonagle.name




Daniel Mcgonagle is an entrpeneur who gives real-world advice. His Marketer's Relief is a comprehensive membership site with a built in traffic generation system. Join here at http://marketersrelief.com for the free traffic or for the 1400 marketing video tutorials and products there.




Grow Your Relationship - Taking it to New Heights


Do you long to grow your relationship and take it to new heights? Are you ready to make a man fall in love with you? Do you want a real relationship? If you are looking for a real relationship and you want to grow your relationship into something special then you will want to follow these steps to taking your relationship to new heights.

Be the best you that you can be.

The best that you can be often requires a bit of work on your part. You need to spend some time reflecting on yourself. Then take what you learn and work on being a better you then you were before. This often means working on living a healthy lifestyle as well as working on your mental and emotional health. It is always a good idea to get some self help books for improving your mental state of mind.

Touch his heart.

After working on you, you can work on your time with him. You need to touch his heart. This can be done in a few ways. First you should have fun with him. Make your times together enjoyable. This will produce good feelings and good memories. Then you should work on being his friend. Be there for him when he needs someone to talk to or a lean on. This is very important and you can not grow your relationship without touching his heart. This is one of the most important aspects of falling in love.

Go at his pace.

You need to be willing to go slow. Guys are rather slow moving creatures, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Work carefully to take things slow and you will make it a lot easier for him. Don't make him feel pressured. You will also want to work at keeping the relationship light and light hearted. Now isn't the time to get all serious!

You can grow your relationship and take it to new heights. First you need to work on you. Then you need to work on touching his heart. Finally you must go slow. You can do it though!




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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.




2012年10月19日 星期五

The Power to Create - Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Relationships!


You have heard the excuses or even said them yourself. You know the ones like, " I want you to be happy", " I don't want to get hurt", or even "I don't want me or you to settle". The purpose of self-sabotage can sometimes appear to be even noble, that usually means trying to avoid the hurt & pain that comes with the joy & love in relationships. The purpose of self-sabotage can sometimes appear to be even noble, that usually means trying to avoid the hurt & pain that comes with the joy & love in relationships.

Sorry, folks, but all of the above goes hand in hand in relationships. Overcoming past hurts and even embarrassments takes a lot of inner strength because one has to deal with the truth about not only others, but themselves. Learn to be fair to yourself and to be fair to those you love and....that love you back. Beginning anew is not easy to do. So before venturing into the new, make sure you have a handle of the old. Be sure that you are ready to become involved in a relationship before you begin a new one. If you are already in a relationship and it's recognized by you or your significant other that you are pushing your loved one away, then seek out to discover how you can break the cycle of self-sabotage & begin the journey of self discovery. Recognize that you have the POWER TO CREATE. So what do you want to create for yourself, your relationship, your family? Want to exercise your POWER now? Here are some helpful tips to start you on your way to bringing anew :

1. Begin to journal. Writing down your thoughts and reflect monthly to recognize your progress of your healing process.

2. Talk to your significant other about what they see. Don't push if they don't feel comfortable or unable to give you any feedback. That's OK, and beginning the discussion will at least let your loved one know you care and want to be a better companion, person, etc. It can create a world of positive possibilities.

3. Recognize your own power in creating a happier, healthier you. Take ownership of your well- being and the well-being of your relationship.

4. Don't be shy, if needed or wanted, seek help from a trained professional. You should take care of your mental health and well-being like you do your physical health.

5. Above all else, try not to place a timeline on your healing process. The effort of overcoming years of pain and self-doubt takes time. The journey of self-discovery is a life journey.

Neek, the Love Coach

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Advice For a Broken Heart


Your significant other just told you your relationship is over. Or, you found out your spouse cheated on you. You didn't expect it coming and you feel broken inside. What do you do?

When you suffer the loss of a relationship, it can be very similar to a death. You need to grieve and go through the stages of grief. Everyone goes through these stages in different ways and it takes varying amounts of time. Give yourself the space and time you need to get to a better place. Here are some signs to look for and some tips to get through this difficult time.

1. Shock and denial. You just can't believe it! You di't expect it or, if you knew there was trouble, you didn't think it was that bad. Your first reaction might be to refuse to believe it or you might just be numb and don't know how to react. Either way, you need to let it sink in. Ask questions or get answers if you need to but make sure that you take some time alone to think and reflect. This will allow you to adjust to your new reality and may prevent you from taking actions you may later regret.

2. Anger or bargaining. Everyone will get to this stage at different times but you WILL get there. It is OK to feel anger -sometimes you will deserve to feel anger! The question is, though, what are you going to do about it? Someone once told me that you cannot help your emotions but you can help what you do about them. My advice is to step back and think things through. If there is any chance of saving your relationship, the worst thing you can do is to take negative actions. Do not text or call the other person 100 times a day. Do not follow them, stalk them or harm them or their property in any way. Not only is this not helpful to your mental health but it can be a crime. Do not beg them, throw yourselves at them or bargain for a future together. This only turns people off and does not make you feel good about yourself.

3. Retrospection and constructive actions. Some people get this, some people don't. It is now time to think about how and why this happened. Sometimes, it is completely no fault of your own. If that is true, you are better off without that person. However, this is often not true. Take a deep look at yourself and your relationship. If you now can see how you contributed to this break-up, you need to acknowledge that to both yourself and your significant other. Be willing to change and address the problems - even if it means getting professional help. This is often the first step in saving your relationship. However, even if it is too late for that, you need to do this for yourself, your family and your future relationships. Patterns tend to repeat themselves and, if you don't want to suffer a broken heart over and over, you may need to accept that you need to change.

4. Depression or loneliness. If your relationship is over no matter what you do, you will be sad. You will feel depression and loneliness. That's OK but recognize it for what it is. Indulge yourself for a while - eat your chocolate double-fudge ice cream or have a few drinks. However, if it goes on too long and you just can't seem to get past it, talk about it with friends or family. They often have good advice. If that doesn't work, get some counseling. You need to.

5. Move forward. Life does go on and things will get better. You cannot let this permanently affect you or steer you onto the wrong path. Get out there - hang out with your friends, be social, join some clubs or go out.

Remember - one person should have so much power over you and your happiness should not be so dependent on another individual. Trust me - you will eventually feel better. How much and how long it takes will be entirely up to you.




Teri Nelson is a divorce lawyer with experience in broken relationships. Check out Save Your Marriage Tips for many other practical tips on how to deal with a broken heart.




2012年10月18日 星期四

9 Relationship Red Flags - What Not to Overlook, Excuse, Or Deny


These 9 Relationship Red Flags have the potential of being overlooked, excused, or denied. All are reasons to stop, look, and listen to what is going on and carefully consider whether or not you should continue in the relationship. All have the potential of desensitizing you to their affects the longer you are in the relationship.

Emotional reactivity: Your partner creates drama and turmoil frequently by being upset, sensitive, moody, angry, and reactive over things that aren't really a big deal to you. As a result of this emotional reactivity, you find yourself walking on eggshells and afraid to be yourself.

Excesses that bother you: Anything your partner does to excess that bothers you now has the potential to bother you more later on. It is even worse if the person is defensive about the issue when you bring it up.

Lying: If you have caught your partner in lies, you can assume there will be more lies in the future, unless the issue underlying the lies is resolved.

Control: Your partner tries to control who you see, what you do, and how you live your life. At first, this may feel caring, but the underlying issues behind control are deep and lead to abuse later on.

Emotional/verbal/physical abuse: Your partner uses manipulative and demeaning tactics such as put downs, minimizing, ridicule, name calling, discounting, hostile anger, threats, withdrawal, and physical violence.

Problems in your partner's personal life: Whether it is with children, finances, business, family, friends, work, physical health, mental health, or sexual problems, these will become your problem(s), if the relationship continues.

Self-doubt: You find yourself questioning yourself and wondering if you crazy, overreacting, oversensitive, mean, or selfish, because your partner is telling you that you are the problem in the relationship.

Inability to resolve conflict: Your partner is unable to resolve conflict and unwilling to learn how to communicate better.

Hoping for change: You are already telling yourself that your partner needs to change. This means you see the red flags but are willing to convince yourself that they will go away rather than lose the relationship.

Proverbs 14:15 says that "a prudent man gives thought to his steps." These 9 Relationship Red Flags are there to protect you. If you are dating, all you have to do is to decide not to continue the relationship. If you are married, it is more complicated, but nevertheless, these areas need your attention in order for your life to get better.

Relationship Prayer: Help me give thought to my steps by paying attention to the warning signs that I see.

Relationship Challenge: Pay attention to the message that these 9 Red Flags in your relationship are giving you.




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Karla Downing is an author, speaker, licensed marriage and family therapist, and Bible study teacher. Karla's passion is to help people find freedom in Christ in the midst of their difficult relationships and circumstances through Biblical truths and practical tools.