What do Cinderella, Snow White, True Love by Stevie Wonder, and So High by John Legend have in common? They all promise to fulfill a woman's desire and longing to be loved and lived happily ever after.
Girls believe in fairy tales. They carry those beliefs into relationships and marriage. But what happens when the person they choose falls short of their imagined knight in shining armor? Is there hope? Yes, but not in what they see or imagine.
Living happily ever after is a little girl's dream. She doesn't know how Snow White's or Cinderella's life was after marriage. All she knows is that the birds were singing and everyone was happy. What a great picture for failure!
In real life it takes more than singing birds and happy people to have a successful relationship. The idea of being rescued by a true love should be stored in the play box with all the other toys girls outgrow. Yet somehow, the idea of a knight in shining armor is carried from young girls to teens to young adults to older adults.
How does one survive the broken heart that comes from an unfulfilled relationship or tainted belief(s) from childhood fairy tales? Below are seven tips to victoriously living with the real knight behind the shining armor.
Know your true knight. Daily, love songs entice us to disregard reality and believe the promises of words. Who can compete with the promises of True Love by Stevie Wonder or So High by John Legend? Only One--Jesus Christ!
Know that you are a princess--love and accept yourself so you can love and accept others. Your relationship with Jesus Christ opens another door of existence for you. No longer are you limited by what you see. You are now a princess and have all the rights and privileges of God's kingdom. Whether you feel it or not, you are greatly loved and should therefore love yourself.
Be transparent--remove masks. Some women are experts at camouflaging what they dislike about themselves with make-up and/or clothes, giving them an appearance of perfection. Therefore, it is easy to carry that desire for perfection into relationships. But make-up isn't permanent. At some point it has to be removed. So do clothes. If no one else knows, we know what we're trying to hide.
Learn to forgive. Life is good, especially when things seem to be in order. We can do what we want, when we want until someone wrongs us and refuses to acknowledge or admit it. Everything seems to stop because we want justice but justice seems to have lost her five senses.
Learn to deal with toads, snakes and unfair measuring rods. As long as we live there will be toads, snakes, and unfair measuring rods. Unlike fairy tales, we do not have a fairy god-mother to rescue us from these things. We must realize that God allows certain people, events, and things in our lives to develop our character and our growth in Him.
Enjoy pleasures (fantasies), but hold onto the truth of reality. There's nothing wrong with vacations, retreats, or quiet time. Enjoy them because it's a time of relaxation and rejuvenation. However, don't linger in the land of relaxation and rejuvenation too long. You'll loose the necessary skills for survival in the real world.
Continue moving forward, regardless of circumstances, for emotional, mental, and physical health. Who wants to endure trials? No one. Yet trials are necessary for our spiritual growth.
Which of the above tips do you agree with most? What is your plan for implementing them right away?
Highlight all the tips you have successfully overcome. What was your strategy for success? Write it down so you can share it later.
What was your favorite fairy tale? How is it impacting your life today?
Name other lessons you learned from fairy tales. Are you willing to let them go if they are not productive in your life?
Are you worthy of being loved by a knight in shining armor? Why or why not?
What fairy tale lessons will you pass to your children? What specific lessons will you tell them?
Know your real value. Becoming God's Vessel of Honor helps you see yourself as the true princess you are.
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