How to Enjoy Stress Free Relationships

Until you have released the need for judgment, you will

always have it reflected back to you in your relationships.

This is one of the main causes of stress.

All too often we assume that we know what others mean

by what they say or do without bothering to gain a clear

understanding of what's really going on. This inevitably

leads to a breakdown in communication and conflict.

The biggest secret to stress free relationships is to master

the skill of being agreeable!

If you think about it just for a moment this makes a lot of

sense. How did you feel the last time someone disagreed with

what you though, said or did? Did you thank them, give them

a big hug and then ask for more disapproval? Probably not!

The bottom line is that people don't like being disagreed

with. This is what leads to arguments and conflict.

You have a choice every time you relate with another person.

You can either be agreeable in nature and in communication

or you can be disagreeable.

The first choice will cause people to be more relaxed and

enjoy your company. The second creates stress and frustration.

It costs nothing to agree with someone else's point of view

even if you think it's ridiculous. Who are we to judge how

another person views their life and the world around them.

Conflict always arises from disagreement's which then leads

to power struggles.

This means that either one or all parties are trying to prove

that they are right and someone else is wrong. This is a no win

scenario because if one person is made wrong, then the outcome

is tension and resentment.

So what do you do if you disagree with what someone is

saying? Ask if it's ok to share your opinion. If the answer

is no, then to keep your relationships stress free keep your

mouth zipped tight. Changes topics if you need to or go do

something fun together but let it go and move on.

The next secret to stress free relationships is to master

the skill of understanding.

The key here is to learn to be a good listener. Can you

remember a time recently when you were talking with someone

and they either interrupted you before you finished talking

and started talking about themselves or completely ignored

what you said and talked about something totally unrelated?

I know that's happened to me thousands of times. Well guess

what, if you didn't like it I can guarantee you that others

won't like it if you do it to them.

By listening attentively to what others say and not

interrupting you will prevent the possibility of causing

stress and tension in your relationships because the people

you are communicating with will feel seen and heard.

This builds trust and respect which are two of the most important

ingredients of a happy, healthy and productive relationship.

Here are 4 keys to master the skill of understanding...

1. Don't interrupt unless you have something urgent to

attend to. Then excuse yourself politely and make a time to

meet with them that you can give your undivided attention.

2. Look them in the eye and keep your body language open

3. Only ask questions that are relevant to the topic. This

lets the person who is talking know that you are really

listening to them.

4. Never assume you know what someone means, always ask for

clarity before sharing you're opinion. Don't be afraid to

keep asking questions until you are 100% sure about what is

being said.

The only time to try and get others to understand you is

after you have understood them. Then they are more receptive

to what you have to say. This skill is one of the most

important in building good bonds between people that are

stress free. There is nothing more powerful than letting

others know that they matter.

Happy, healthy and stress free relationships are no

accident. They are skillfully developed over time by people

who care about people. These secrets will only work if you

apply them.

The more you apply them, the less stress you'll have in relationships.

I know this for a fact because they have been working for me for

more than 15 years.

To Your Great Life and Health

Michael Atma

Michael Atma is an internationally known author, speaker & success coach. Known as the person to talk to when you're ready to enjoy massive results, Michael offers simple yet proven strategies to improve the quality of your life in just minutes. Michael's writing comes straight from the front line of good health and successful living

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Lose Weight Really Fast And Enjoy A Blissful Relationship

When it comes to excess body weight and obesity matters, I've observed these issues can be emotional, sensitive, psychological and personal experiences which would require collective care, assistance and affection from all parties towards sufferers.

Even though causes of weight and fitness challenges might be due to ignorance, unhealthy eating habits, poor lifestyle choices or hereditary genes, these victims will however, always deserve some practical support from the society.

I've been coaching and educating people from various cultural backgrounds (African, Asian and European) who were hit by weight challenges for a few years. And I've witnessed a catalogue of damaging and consequential effects these people have been subjected to, in respect of poor health, careers' loss and particularly, relationships failures.

Nevertheless, I always encourage those overweight to get seriously committed to lose the unwanted weight. At that stage, the most important thing is to change your mindset, and stop blaming your genes, economic circumstance, background or culture. When you change your thinking then every situation or experience is subject to change.

When you quantify the damaging effects of overweight and obesity you might perhaps realise it's more expensive staying in that "red alert zone" with its associated diseases and traumas than the costs of getting into a healthy shape, enhancing career, self-esteem, social status, joy and relationships. That's where I find it gratifying to educate, coach and empower the overweight to wage war over excess weight until they've won.

Let's look at some health, emotional, psychological, physical, economic and relationship traumas associated with excess body weight.

Overweight can potentially degenerate into preventable diseases like cancer, diabetes, hypertension, arthritis, breathing problem, heart disease, stress, depression, insomnia and premature aging. These conditions could make you become vulnerable to victimization by peers/society and damage desirability for relationships.
If you are not thin and sexy, society can view you (overweight) to make you feel unattractive, undesirable, low self-esteem and low social social status. Such experiences could cause psychological and social ramifications to affect romantic partnership and relationship status
When you are overweight, you could be stigmatized and discriminated against as heavy, sluggish, lazy and as having less will-power. This could make social dating less frequent, reduce cohabiting and not do well for commitment; and that could make you feel suicidal.
Again, in the offices overweight people are not put at the front offices or reception. They are mostly posted at the back offices and warehouses.
Overweight people tend to get less invitations to social outings and meetings
On the physical side of things, being overweight you suffer from immobility. Climbing up and down stairs or walking about could be a challenging task associated with breathlessness.
Economically, overweight conditions could cause colossal financial loss to individuals, families, employers and nations. When you are overweight you tend to battle with your health. When you are sick, you might not be able to pursue your career and develop your potential to the fullest. And that could damage your career progression. Absenteeism and sickness mean loss of personal earnings and less productivity to employers and less government revenue. You might also end up spending more money on medical treatment. It might also incur displeasure and put extra burden on your family when have to take time off work and nurse you at home.
In certain parts of the society, overweight people are viewed as less healthy with shorter life span and thus not considered for marriages or long-term relationship. They orchestrate their fear to raise children or plan a future with the overweight by suspecting fat people might not live longer. People also perceive they might end up spending more time driving their "over weight" relations to the hospital than booking for vacations, and fear they might not to enjoy a romantic and blissful relationship; how sad!
When you are overweight it could trigger into low sexual drive. Body pain, insomnia, lethargy, breathing problems and emotional traumas could ruin sexual appetite. Men suffering from diabetes, hypertension and breathing problems ( and even side effects of medication treating these conditions) could cause impotency.

Let me share a story I witnessed about 3 years ago.

I went on a follow-up visit to a married woman on a weight loss program. Admittedly, she was not shifting the excess weight as seriously as per the program. Then the husband unexpectedly brought out some of their wedding and romantic pictures and addressing me, saying - " Godfrey, look at the pictures of a woman I dearly married a few years ago as in contrast to her physical looks and unattractive size today! " You could see the disappointment, distaste, frustration and hurt over the husband's face, how sad! What can we all learn from this emotional testimonial?

The good news is there is always a package of solutions to your weight and fitness challenges. You stand to gain all round and enjoy a healthy lifestyle if you will take practical steps to lose excess weight. When you shed off the unhealthy body fat you feel and look trendy and sexy. You rejuvenate your youthfulness. You sleep better. You smile bigger. When you smile bigger, you enjoy the perceived value of a warm and lively personality. You then attract great people into your life and enjoy blissful relationships. So take serious action today and lose really fast.

I'm Godfrey Jeffrey Agyare, resident of London, United Kingdom. My background is a Philanthropist, Health & Fitness Coach. My interests are personal & lifestyle development and travelling.

This is to support those dissatisfied with their weight, serious to wage war against overweight, to reduce the incidence of preventable diseases (like: cancer, diabetes, hypertension, breathing problems, body pains). When you lose weight and get into a new healthy shape, you regain energy and youthfulness. You become trendy, lively and warm personality. Your new looks will enhance your self-esteem, attractiveness and blossom your relationships.

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