Relationship Advice on Feminine Power - 3 Traps to Avoid For a Successful Relationship

Like it or not, the road to romance can sometimes be bumpy. Stepping into your "feminine power" has been a concept of confusion for many forward thinking females ever since the 60's and has kept many relationships from living happily ever after. Reflect on this relationship advice to see if you've fallen prey to any of these 3 traps.

Loss of Balance

With very few powerful feminine role models for you to emulate, the association to "power" has been misinterpreted as masculine. Face it. The majorities of women wears a dozen different hats and are on the fast track the minute our feet hit the ground in the morning till we drop into bed exhausted.

This kind of power and energy is not from our feminine source. So it's easy to understand how the art and pleasure of being a woman got lost and buried. In addition, with the drive to succeed front and center, playfulness flew out the window along with fun romantic adventure. Learn how to flip to feminine and you'll have much more fun.

Loss of Connection

If you are like the millions of women who crave an intimate connection with their man but expect him to turn into Don Juan and create all the romance, you're unconsciously giving your power away. You need to ask yourself, "Do I want to stay stuck or do I want to reach out and be a bridge to love?"

Most men were not raised to know how to woo you beyond the initial stages of love and are fearful of being criticized and rejected, whereas women, the feminine, are the source of creativity. So stop judging and blaming, start softening, and allow a safe haven for your partner to enter into. Go dancing, listen to music, watch a funny movie or design a fun environment to play in. The point is you have the power to create what you want, so do it!

Loss of Pleasure

A segment on NBC's Today Show revealed 63 percent of all relationships are suffering from sex problems. Relationship expert David Schnarch, a clinical psychologist at the Marriage and Family Health Center in Evergreen, Colorado, cites women as having confusion and control issues. His remedy? Women need to rediscover themselves and take control of their desires. Couples need to build intimacy and work on personal growth.

As observed by Dr. Schnarch, women need to get in touch with their feminine energy, their pleasure center, and create what they want in their love life. Couples who play together are much happier. It's important for women to understand that pleasure is their birthright. So get in touch with what brings you pleasure - make a list of 10 things that make your skin tingle with excitement and make sure you do at least one of them every day.

Thankfully, with the recent downturn in the job market and a return to a "less is more" mentality, people are once again searching for balance, meaningful connection and pleasure within their relationships. I invite you to take a moment and reflect - are you making the most of your feminine power? If you can live consciously and avoid these three traps you are definitely on your way to a successful relationship.

Bonus - If you would like more information on how to have more fun in your relationship and create the closeness you crave I invite you to visit http://www.SherriNickols.com and claim your special free report.

Authored by Sherri Nickols - Romance Coach for women ready to live a fully Self-expressed life, blending fun and adventure into their relationship to create the closeness they crave.

The Keys Needed to Unlock a Successful Marriage in Your Relationship

Marriages are crumbling in America. There are many reasons why marriages are failing and it would be impossible to name all of those reasons here. Times are changing and people's concept of marriage has changed. Some people are waking up to the fact that they were probably better off single. Some chose an incompatible mate but chose to have a family and stayed with their mates. Many people chose to be married but live separate lives. Whatever the case, marriages are definitely on the rocks.

The family unit is giving into the pressures of society as far as how relationships are. On television, most families are characterized as being schizophrenic, sex crazed or having serious problems with extended family members. This has an effect on American society in which television has distorted what the family should be striving for which is an element of understanding, harmony or peace.

What has really did damage to marriages is the fact that parts of the civilized world has defined marriage as the woman wanting to be secure (home, possessions and security) while the man provides these things. Women are waking up and providing these things for themselves, making decisions for them, which according to patriarchal rules, is a no-no. So most women are choosing to be single and most men are not committing because of various factors. Society is changing as far as marriage, communication, and other aspects is concerned.

Most marriages are breaking up because of not understanding the purpose of the other individual. People want to expand their horizons of self worth within marriage and because of traditional rules that were made up to keep relationships subject able, many people are escaping that mentality of slavery in any kind of relationship.

So if you are married, there are several things that you must do to create an atmosphere of harmony between you and your spouse and here are some of those elements to make your marriage a happy marriage.

1. Create a portal in which your mate can explore her/his real life passion.

This is very important. Even within a marriage, each person is an individual. Though communication and socialization is important for better relationships, we all have our personal desires. You should help your mate accomplish their individual goals.

2. Give your mate plenty of room to grow and experience life.

Just because you are married does not mean that it has to turn into a prison. Let your mate do the things that they need to do to make them happy.

3. Make sure that your mate has significant time to themselves to think about their life purpose.

This is important. Everyone needs a time for reflection so provide your mate with those private times that he/she needs to get their mental and spiritual thoughts together.

Marriage and Family Counseling - Really Important!

Marriage and Family Counseling is important. Marriage and Family counselors help couples work out their problems to develop a system of love, trust and oneness in a relationship. Counselors can dig and see the root cause of the problem through enabling effective communication skills to overcome challenges for the couple or family. Marriage and family counselors are mental health professionals who bring a family perspective to a person, couple or organization. They treat families, mental, emotional and various health and behavior problems.

If you have children, it is great to have them as a part of the program since they are a part of the family. Marriage counseling considers peripheral characters, such as the Mother-in-Law, Father-In-Law, other relatives and the effects that they have on a successful marriage. This is accomplished via personality interviews with extended family members.

Marriage counseling brings out controversial issues. It could be some elements of a spouse's past that are hidden which affect the relationship deeply. Many of these issues can stop a marriage cold, such as incest, rape of a relative and abuse in a previous marriage. When problems like this occur, marriage therapy is truly needed to solve the problem. If your mate agrees, then this is one way to improve your marriage or else, the misery will continue.

Creating Fields of Love with Marriage

Many married couples are always confrontational because they can not forgive and forget. Some couples never recover from the problems in a relationship but choose to stay the course while being totally miserable with the choices that they made. They stop romancing each other and doing the things that allowed the relationship to flourish in the first place.

If you seek the professional help of a marriage counselor, they can provide a battery of tests and evaluate to study, comprehend and obtain new solutions for helping couples in their marriage. Most individuals resign themselves to live under a roof of controversy and loudness. This is detrimental to people who have families. Counseling is great and can heal the wounds of a person, family or extended family. Counseling can focus on brief, solution-focused, family-centered treatment which is center towards the cause of problems in your marriage instead of the symptoms. If you are married, you might want to consider this kind of treatment to resolve your problems.

Recognizing Certain Problems in Marriages

These issues are widely known to cause problems in marriages:

- Families facing severe mental illnesses and emotional disorders, such as schizophrenia and depression.

Many marriages have to take on the extra responsibility of a loved one or parent coming down with an illness. Sometimes, this causes pressure on one or both people in the relationship and can be financially taxing. The trend is to put that person in a nursing home or facility that can treat their disorder but a married couple can turn these kinds of situations into gold if they plan correctly and realize that not all is bad. This could actually enhance and help the marriage if looked at from a proper perspective.

- Substance abuse

A big problem in marriages is when a husband or wife has a drinking problem. Substance abuse can lead to spousal abuse. It can also cause children to become upset and carry memories of abuse for a long time. This issue has been studied for years and now, local governments are implementing free programs for spouses that have a problem with substance abuse to get help.

Overall, marriage can be a good deal if you really work at respecting each other and love each others purpose. This comes through better communication. It takes time to improve your relationships. Enhancing your communication skills is one of the quickest ways to improve your marriage because it is the key to an effective marriage.

Joshua Uebergang is owner of Tower of Power, an Australian communication skills company, where he can give you free relationship-communication skills to enhance your marriage and any relationship you have with people. He has a free newsletter on relationships you can sign up to where you'll get a bonus video on communication and relationships upon subscribing.

Powerful and Successful Relationships - Enhance Your Relationships Like an Ambassador of Compassion

Our relationships improve when we make a genuine effort to be more compassionate toward others, and we end up feeling like a million bucks.

Maybe we're often too busy or self-absorbed to focus our attention on the misfortune or needs of others. As a result, our relationships are not what they could be. Yet, developing a more compassionate approach to people will make your relationships soar!

What's The Big Deal About Compassion?

Compassion may be defined as concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others. We are able to develop compassion when we develop an awareness of the unfortunate circumstances people are in or the problems they may be encountering.

When we avoid judging or criticizing others and seek to understand them, it is possible to feel compassion more fully. What a way to improve our mental health!

It is a good feeling to withhold judgement and to take the time necessary to see another's life more clearly. Then we can understand their circumstances and how we can help them . . .

And it is a good feeling to connect with people in a non-judgmental and compassionate way.

In fact, compassion is an effective anti-depressant!

How Compassion Helped Me

My experiment with compassion began as a New Year's Resolution a few years ago. I decided to become more attentive to the plight of people in my life (and community) and to be more of a help to them. I didn't want to save anyone, or to be a hero, just to more completely understand . . . and to offer people the gift of my acceptance, empathy and concern.

As the year went by, not only was I able to touch more lives in a positive, caring way, but all my relationships benefited from my new way of seeing and interacting with people.

I spent less time telling people what they did wrong or what they should do, and more time finding the value in their lives and giving my heartfelt positive regard.

I was quicker to communicate my concern. I began to go out of my way to let them know I cared. I said what was in my heart without fear of their response.

Surprisingly, I found myself giving a more helpful and beneficial energy to all my relationships . . . my relationships began to feel different . . . they grew stronger and more positive.

As a side benefit, my life assumed a greater sense of meaning and purpose. And I felt better about myself, to say the least. Giving more compassionately is a wonderful self-help technique.

How To Become More Compassionate

1. Change your thinking habits. As soon as you catch yourself rushing to criticize or condemn, step back and suspend judgement. Analyze the situation more deeply.

2. Take time to understand, rather than giving in to a knee-jerk-reaction. Just try and see without allowing emotion to cloud logic.

3. Adopt a different approach to people you tend to avoid, dismiss or dislike. They're people too. Give them a chance. Actively look for the good in them, and allow yourself to find their hidden beauty.

4. Ask yourself what person(s) in your life would benefit from your complete and unbiased understanding or sympathetic attention. And consider how you might communicate it to them. Give more compassion and give it straight-up.

5. Try to find opportunities to make a difference in someone's life, no matter how small.

6. Be creative in supporting others more and helping them to overcome their difficult problems or circumstances. Have fun thinking of ways to help. Be more childlike in trusting your imagination for inspiration.

7. Walk a mile in others' shoes. This old adage really works. If you take the time to stop and put on someone else's shoes, and to walk around in their life, you will feel what they feel. Compassion will follow.

8. Ask your Higher Power to help you to become less egocentric and more concerned about the lives of others.

9. When others judge harshly and withdraw their support of someone, give your understanding and acceptance.

10. In prayer or meditation, open yourself to a more compassionate way of interacting with people.

Real Life Suggestions

Do you know an elderly person who recently lost a mate? What can you do to bring a smile to his/her face? Bake cookies? Give a surprise birthday party? Make a pot of coffee and spend some time together?

Do you know a family whose house burned down? Do something to help. Call them and offer your support. Share some of your extra possessions with them. Most of us have too many.

Is someone in your apartment building ill? Why not offer to go to the pharmacy for them or take them a homemade meal?

Compassion brings new power to networking. If you know a colleague who is down and out, offer your compassion. Your good deed will come back to you in many ways.

Is someone in your life miserable because of the poor choices he/she keeps making? Try a compassionate approach. Instead of lecturing or saying "I told you so," offer your kindness and sympathy.

Remember: You are far more likely to help someone if you offer an expression of compassion instead of your critical remarks and complaints.

They will feel more empowered and be more likely to return your good will. Live with and act on your compassion, and you'll make your community, and the world, a better place.

Become an ambassador of compassion, and your relationships will soar!

Richard Hamon is a professional therapist and coach with over 25 years of experience. His business, Relationships For Success Coaching, helps people to improve their relationships and enjoy success in all areas of their lives.

Richard has written a unique eBook, The Ultimate Relationship Solution: How Secrets Discovered From A Near Death Experience Can Help You Ignite Passion and Realize Success in All Your Relationships. The eBook tells about an actual Near Death Experience the author had in 2003, which transformed his life and led to a series of insights, revelations and secrets about relationships.

You can find Richard's eBook, The Ultimate Relationship Solution at: http://ultimate-relationship-solution.com/

The Key to Successful Marketing - Relationship-Building

Come with me into a farmer's market - you're about to get a hands-on lesson on why relationships make such a difference in marketing... and how to create them...

Look around you: Mountains of vegetables - ruby beets with the tops still on, beautiful heads of lettuce ruffled, wavy, lime green and deep pine green. Apples with names like Sops of Wine, Winter Banana and Westfield Seek-No-Further. Fresh bread, crust crackling, pulled from the oven this morning... I've got you salivating already...

But while the food is the main attraction, look beyond the merchandise being sold. Look at what's going on between the buyers and sellers. People are animated, talking, asking questions, smiling - sometimes greeting each other with a sense of familiarity, even by name.

This is one of the big reasons people enjoy going to the farmer's market. And in fact, it's the same thing they are looking for in every purchase experience - a relationship.

What people love about the farmer's market is meeting the people who have grown the food they are about to eat. They can look into their eyes and ask them questions about their merchandise. They feel comfortable - no, excited - to buy something from someone they feel they know.

As many market analysts have pointed out, the increasing appeal of farmers markets and local foods is not just based in ideology or a commitment to shrinking carbon footprints. It goes to a deeper human need - to connect. People are looking for places where commerce is not just an exchange of goods and money - but keeps them feeling human.

Sure, it's about trust - that's a big part of it. But it's more than just trust. People like spending money when they feel they're getting more than just a thing, but purchasing into an experience or a community. They are seeking connections in their purchases.

And while you can't show up at your customer's doorstep with dirt under your fingernails and offer them a fresh sample with your own hands, you can still build something comparable with strategic marketing.

Here are four strategies I use regularly as a marketer and copywriter for the health market. Some of them are covered in my free report, "17 Health Copywriting Tips for a Tough Economy" listed below.

1. Build Trust Through Self-Revelations:

You can build trust with your customers by telling them more about your company. Let them know what inspires you, what your mission is, and what your expertise is.

Careful, don't turn this into a chest-pounding speech about you. Weave it into communications that focus on your customers' needs, concerns and interests.

And let some of your character through, even reveal a few weaknesses. If social marketing has taught us anything, it's how much people respond to marketing that feels like it comes from a real person.

2. Build Trust Through Regular Communication:

Your kids' bus driver, the guy you buy the morning paper or coffee from, your colleague in the next cubicle. For better or worse, these people are regular fixtures in your life... And - unless they've given you cause to think otherwise - they slowly but surely claim some of your trust just by being familiar to you.

Make your marketing do the same thing. Find regular ways to communicate with your customers. Maybe it's through an e-newsletter (yes, people are still opening and reading e-newsletters), maybe it's through your Facebook page or tweeting.

Maybe it's simply that you send them a catalog regularly. There are a couple catalogs I receive that I enjoy looking through just for the extra snippets of info and observations.

Through testing you can find that sweet spot of enough communications to build familiarity without becoming overbearing.

So make it a regular thing - gain some trust with your customers just by virtue of being part of their regular "neighborhood".

3. Build Relationships Through Giving

This is no time to be stingy. With tighter budgets, people are looking for freebies and bargains. But this is not just something for tough economic times...

In general, people feel a need to give back to someone who has been generous. Social researcher, Robert Cialdini, Ph. D. in his seminal book Influence, noted how consistently people gave more donations to the Hari Krishna fundraisers who gave away free flowers. Even if they didn't want a flower, they felt a need to give something in return.

So think about what you can give to your customers. And I'm not just talking about free samples or two-for-one deals. You can still mind your budget and keep your value-laden products fairly priced.

See, people love useful information they can get for free. Perhaps it's a well-researched, informative e-book, a calendar, or a simple recipe. Provide some free entertainment that changes their perspective - an inspiring or humorous story.

How do you get it to them? A downloadable white paper, good content in your newsletter or blog, an insert when you send your products off or an info-frosted magalog.

Give something extra to your customers and, in turn, they'll feel even more disposed to give you their business.

4. Build A Relationship By Bringing Down The Hype

Marketing is changing with the advent of social media. And the number one shift that social media experts like to point out is that no longer can you deceive your customers. Be transparent or be doomed. Like the wizard of oz, the little dog of social media will swipe that curtain away and you'll be exposed to millions of accusing eyes for the charlatan you are, if you go that route.

But wait, back up a minute, this really isn't that new.

If you hype up your sales pitch, advertising a masterful piece of art and then your customers get a plain ole postcard, do you think they are going to buy from you again? No way.

Sure, communicate your excitement about your product. Highlight the benefits, but don't mislead your customers. Make them feel exceedingly pleased with their purchase, confident that they weren't hoodwinked and eager to buy from you again and again and again.

In fact one of Zappos' customer-securing maxims is to underpromise and overdeliver. So sure, you want to entice with your marketing materials. But consider being a little humble here and there so your customers can experience the thrill of purchasing something that is even better than they imagined. Think about how this will hook them on your company and get them to sing your praises to everyone they know. Think about it...

Relationship marketing is about... relationships. Yeah, that's pretty evident. But determining what goes into a good relationship is a little trickier. And how to translate that into the wheeling and dealing world of marketing can be even harder.

Take these four ideas, combine them with some genuine excitement about solving your customers' problems, and you've got a sweet mix for building some good rapport with your prospects.

For more ideas on how a good natural health copywriter can help you build strong relationships with your market go to http://www.healthymarketingideas.com. There you can get a free report on "5 Online Marketing Mistakes And How To Fix Them For Ecommerce Success".

5 Actions For Successful Relationships

Couples that have a very good relationship are not just lucky. Successful, loving relationships do not just happen. The couples that have loving relationships are taking specific actions that people in unsuccessful relationships are not taking.

ACTION 1 - KINDNESS TO SELF AND OTHER

Think for a moment about how you go through your day. Are you focused on what you don't like in yourself or your partner? Do you spend much of your thinking time judging yourself or your partner? Or, do you make the spiritual attribute of kindness to yourself and others, including your partner, your highest priority?

People in successful relationships treat themselves and their partner with kindness - kind words, kind actions, kind looks, kind listening, and kind thoughts. It is far more important to them to be kind than to try to control their partner with anger, judgment, criticism, irritation, blame, resistance or withdrawal.

ACTION 2 - PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR FEELINGS

People in loving relationships do not make their partner responsible for their feelings. When they feel angry, hurt, anxious, depressed, resentful, irritated, guilty, or shamed, they look within at their own thoughts and behavior that may be causing their painful feelings. They do not see themselves as victims of their partner's choices. Rather, they learn how to manage their own feelings without dumping their upset on their partner. When they can't manage their own feelings, they get the help they need rather than dump anger, blame, anxiety or depression onto their partner.

ACTION 3 - ORGANIZATIONAL RESPONSIBILITY

People in successful relationships take responsibility for managing their time and space in ways that work for themselves and their partner. They make sure they have enough time with each other to talk, learn, resolve conflict, play and make love. The make sure they have time with children, time for chores, time for work and time for relaxation. They take care of their mutual living spaces in ways that respect their partner's needs. If one partner tends to be neat and the other messy, they both strive to make their living environment pleasant for both of them rather than either of them complying, controlling, or resisting. Because their highest priority is kindness to themselves and each other, they are motivated to discover ways of living together that meets both of their needs.

ACTION 4 - FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY

Successful couples make sure that they not only earn enough to support themselves, but they learn how to manage their money in ways that do not create stress for themselves or their partner. They decide mutually if both of them will work or not. Partners in loving relationships do not unilaterally decide to stop working and live off the other person. Nor does either partner make unilateral financial decisions that have a negative effect on the other partner.

In successful relationships, one partner does not spend money in such as way as to create stress for the other person. Loving partners mutually decide on their budget and then both of them stick to it.

ACTION 5 - HEALTH AND WELLBEING

When two people care deeply about themselves and each other, they strive to take care of their physical health. Loving partners do not behave in ways that cause their partner to fear for their wellbeing. They do not take unnecessary risks, such as riding a motorcycle without a helmet, or participating in activities that could harm their eyes without wearing goggles. They don't drink and drive. They eat well, get enough exercise, and don't smoke. People in loving relationships do not want their partner to suffer the grief of their loss through premature illness, so they strive to take good care of themselves - partly out of caring for themselves, and partly out of caring for their partner.

Once again - successful relationships don't just happen. They are the result of each person taking physical, emotional, financial, organizational, and spiritual responsibility within their relationship.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and ?Healing Your Aloneness.? She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner BondingR healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.

Successful Relationships Improves The Bottom Line

The Current State

We have the highest rates of marriage and divorce in the world. According to the 2003 Census Bureau, annually, there are about 2.3 million marriages and about 1.2 million divorces in the US. Think of all the people those divorces affect. You know some of them, and you know how destructive the whole divorce process can be.

Divorce effects the workforce -- a real concern for management. For example, in the year following divorce, employees lose an average of over 168 hours of work time - an equivalent of being fully absent four weeks in one calendar year. In addition, before divorce, high marital stress is associated with increases in work loss days - a person with marital distress will lose more than 38 more days of work per year than someone with average marital stress. Can employers prevent this sort of negative impact?

Until now, we all thought that marriages and relationships were the responsibility of the couples themselves, clergy, coaches, and healthcare professionals. However, with companies taking on more of the burden of healthcare costs, plus the loss of productivity due to relationship stress, business owners and corporate executives are beginning to take an active part in promoting happy, healthy relationships and marriages for themselves and their employees.

Investing in, and building direct and indirect relationship wellness programs improve a company's overall financial health, while ignoring these opportunities can decrease a company's productivity and profitability.

Workers in Unhappy Marriages

Workers in failing relationships often have serious health concerns - like stress, anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. We don't need to tell you that these directly effect healthcare costs and the bottom line.

Indirectly, relationship problems and divorce impact overall worker productivity more frequently than death in the family, serious illness, problems with children, substance abuse, and depression. In addition, an inefficient and unprofitable work environment results from the many factors experienced by employees in failing relationships: increased absenteeism and presenteeism (being physically present but mentally absent), decreased health, increased anxiety, and stress.

Presenteeism can affect an employee for days or longer causing decreased productivity and profits. Lost productivity on the average is a half times greater then that lost to absenteeism. The Harvard Business Review estimates that presenteeism costs American Business $150 billion annually in direct and indirect costs. (Dixon, Weighing the Costs of Presenteeism, The Chief Executive, June 2005)

Workers in Happy Marriages

We can conjecture that employees who enjoy relational health at home, in their marriage, and among their peers are more productive, more effective team members and make better leaders. They are happier, healthier, more confident, positive, and motivated.

Studies show that individuals in happy and successful relationships have greater skills in areas such as communication, flexibility, closeness, personality compatibility, and conflict resolution. The connection between these skills and the workplace are obvious - and are worth cultivating.

According to a 2006 study, when dual-income couples are happy in marriage, they are more loyal to their employers, thus turnover is lowered. The cost-saving benefits of not having to train new employees leads to greater profitability.

We found several studies that break down the returns on investment (ROI) in employee wellness programs. While most companies report initial losses because of having to find the "right fit" for their employees, long-term results show savings of $1.40 - $4.90 per every dollar spent, and an ROI of up to $6.85 for every dollar invested in employee relationship wellness programs.

When your company invests in such relationship wellness programs, like those that "I-TO-WE" Relationship Coaching offers, you will benefit by greater loyalty of your employees, reduced turnover, more effective teamwork, increased sales, productivity and positive morale of the workforce. Who wouldn't want that?

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Glenn Cohen is an acclaimed coach, speaker and author. His practice encompasses Personal, Couples, Divorce and Business Coaching. Glenn also conducts workshops, speeches and seminars for companies, civic, religious organizations and other associations on how to help people live authentically, with a peaceful soul while enjoying emotionally intelligent relationships at home, at work, and within the self.

Glenn resides in Charleston, South Carolina, where he runs his private coaching practice. You may contact him at 843-852-9828 or his website, I-TO-WE Coaching

Independence Vs Dependence - 4 Skills You Must Learn to Have Successful Relationships Now!

In my experience as a Behavior Specialist and Licensed Clinician for over 13 years, the amount of independence or dependence you have in your relationships is often an indication of the level of your psychological and emotional health and a predictor of how successful your relationships will be with others.

It is known that we grow through certain psychological and developmental stages throughout our early childhood into adulthood. Some of us grew through them with ease, because we were nurtured and cared for by consistent, attentive parents or caregivers, but many of you may have had inconsistent, unhealthy, or non existent parenting and care-giving that could have had an impact on your early childhood development and thus has impacted the level of your psychological health and dependence or independence as you mature and grow in life.

The good news is that even if you didn't have the best parenting or parents as good role models, you can still learn the skills and behaviors to improve your psychological health, decrease dependence and increase independence or increase dependence and increase independence; which ever is at an unhealthy imbalance.

I teach individuals and couples these tools and skills so they too can create successful relationships with themselves and others. These are 4 things you must have in order to be emotionally healthy and have successful relationships personally and professionally:

Self-Awareness: It is important for you to be self-aware for you to have successful relationships with others. You must be able to understand that your behavior has an impact (positively or negatively) on others and care what that impact is. A good skill to learn is being aware of, and understanding other people's body language. When you can understand this you can gauge how people are experiencing you and learn to use it to your advantage. I coach people to learn this skill and use it successfully in their relationships at the office, as well as personally.

Self-Responsibility: Believe it or not, ultimately you are responsible to take care of yourself emotionally and physically once you are the legal age of 18. Before that, you are allowed to be dependent on your parent(s) and your parent(s) or caregivers are required by law to take care of you. Hopefully your parent(s) even while you were still young started to teach you the beginning skills of independence. Helping you learn how to take care of yourself if a parent leaves your sight, doesn't bring you something right away, or you get hurt or upset. These were the beginning skills that were important for you to learn in order for you to learn independence vs. dependence. These can help you in relationships today, or you can work with a coach like me who can help you learn and be aware of them now. Too often I see couples that one partner expects the other to make them happy, make them always feel good, take care of them etc. The healthiest couples have a healthy balance of independence vs. dependence.

Emotional Management: To have successful relationships you must be able to manage adequately your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors. A person who is able to calm herself down and soothe herself by herself when upset or unhappy will probably be able to have healthier relationships. A person who is angry or upset who can talk himself down and able to discuss calmly an issue will most likely have better relationships. Usually a person who knows how to use the EMT(TM) (Emotional Management Technique which is taught in my Are you Stressed home study product and in my coaching sessions) can have healthier more successful relationships by using the techniques and tools I teach to better manage their emotional system.

Needs Management: As human beings, we have the following basic needs; sleep, nutrition & hydration, elimination, love & belonging, safety & shelter. We all need varying degrees and amounts of these to function and survive. When we know ourselves well we know what amounts of these we need to perform at our very best. I am one of those individuals who know myself very well. And as I have gotten busier and more successful, I have had to take care of my needs better by myself, or hire someone to help me do so in order to be most successful. This independence and dependence on myself allows me to have a good relationship with myself AND have successful relationships with others. One of my specialties is to help people become aware of what their unique needs are and better manage and take care of them, so they can be more successful as well!

Above are the beginning 4 skills you must learn or have in order to be emotionally healthy and have successful relationships both personally and professionally. Begin to learn and practice these skills so you too can have Successful Relationships Now!

Remember: In order to be the person you have never been, In order to have the life and relationships(s) you have never had, You must do what you have never done before: Give me a call or contact me so I can support you (and your relationships) in having the best life you've ever had!

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What's the Key to Developing Successful Customer Relationships?

Develop and Strengthen Your Customer Satisfaction Through Relationships

What is the best way to develop relationships?

By spending time with those you want relationships with. Find out what is important to them. Discover what their goals, needs, and desires are. Keeping in touch with those that are important to us.

We can use this basic relationship premise in the world of our business relationships as well.

Your customers are not buying your product or service.... they are buying the relationship with you.

Let's use the example of health clubs. With health and fitness being so much more mainstream today than ever before, it is an absolute guarantee that customers want to be in an environment where they feel truly understood by those that are helping them.

Determine the goals of the goals of your customers. In the example of gyms, find out what is driving them to use you. Is it to reduce their blood pressure? To lose weight? To get in shape for summer? To increase their strength? By accurately understanding the reason why someone is using your services, then you can provide them with exactly what they are looking for.

Once you know what your customers is looking for, go out of your way to give it to them. In our health club example, provide them with the training necessary to achieve their goals. If their goal is to lose weight or reduce blood pressure, provide access to a nutritionist to make improvements in their diet combined with exercise. For those that are looking to increase fitness or increase strength, give them a training session to customize exercises tailored specifically for them.

Business relationships should continue long after the initial product or service has been purchased. We keep our personal relationships alive by seeing each other, calling and writing each other. Carry this through in your customer relationships. Ask your health club members how they are doing in the achievement of their goals. Determine if they need more or different services. Ask them what they like about your services and if they would like to see anything changed.

Keeping relationships open and honest will bring fulfillment in our personal lives, and profitable in our professional lives. By forming genuine relationships with your customers, they will feel valued by you and be willing to continue to spend their money with you over your competitors that don't appreciate them.

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Helping you focus on your customers- Kristina Evey

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Sexual Health - A Key To Successful Marriage

Sexual Health affects all areas of your life, from your career, to your relationship, to your family. When you think about it, all life starts with sex. Every woman and man on the planet was brought into the world by a woman, through sex. Though our media is fascinated with sexual entertainment, thoughtful or practical discussions of real life sexual health and happiness, especially regarding women, are avoided. Western culture tends to not take the sexual health and happiness of women seriously. According to a University of Chicago study, 33.4% of women suffer from a low sex drive, 24.1% have problems reaching orgasm and 14.4% experience pain while having sex. Obviously we are having problems. So why should you address your sexual health and happiness?

An unhealthy sex life inhibits the development of relationships, most important one being the relationship you have with yourself. Neglecting your sexual being can be destructive to your self esteem. Having poor self esteem affects how we perform as employees, managers, business owners, mothers, wives and girlfriends. Low self esteem causes in-decisiveness. Because you doubt yourself, you doubt your decisions and if you doubt your decisions, so do other people. Low self esteem poisons relationships with friends, family, co-workers, parents and kids for several reasons. When you feel inadequate you set yourself up to be victimized by others or you victimize others.

Have you ever noticed how when you are wearing a hot new outfit and your hair looks right and your nails are done, things seem to magically go your way? When your self-esteem is through the roof, people feel it and treat you the way you treat yourself. John Eliot a psychologist who specializes in human performance cites confidence as one of the key ingredients in over-achievement! Feeling good about yourself makes good things happen! And how you feel about yourself sexually is a major component of your self identity.

Having a healthy sex life is also important in your romantic relationships. Do you enjoy having sex with your partner? Does sex with your partner satisfy you or do you always feel frustrated and unfulfilled? Do you still find your partner sexy and do you feel attractive and satisfying to your partner? Though there is much more to a great relationship than great sex, bad sex is definitely a problem! No one wants to be in an un-fulfilling relationship? And no one wants to suffer the damage of a divorce or break up when it could have been avoided. No matter how your relationship started, there comes a time when a healthy and fun sex life will take a conscious effort of communication, patience and education. To learn new things you must try new things!

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results". - Albert Einstein

Nowadays, not only does your sexual health have a serious effects on the health of your body but those of your children also. Many people are still undereducated about safe sex. Despite modern technology there are still record number of accidental pregnancies, while the rate of new reported STD cases grows astronomically. Some of these diseases can kill and can be passed on to unborn children. What many people don't want to talk about is that even married and monogamous women becoming infected, because they are in physically and emotionally unhealthy sexual relationships with their husbands.

So ladies (and gentlemen if you are reading), please take your sexual health and happiness seriously because so much is at stake! Take time to educate yourself on how to enjoy sex safely. Have intelligent discussions with friends and families. Stay abreast on the latest developments in sexual health and medicine and understand that the art of giving and receiving sexual pleasure is as important as important, if not more so than cooking, painting or music. Yes, there is such a thing as dirty sex, but sex is not dirty.

Kat Williams

Ladies, go to GreatSex4Girls.com and learn how to better enjoy sexual intimacy with your husband or boyfriend!