The Importance of Love Relationships for Your Mental Stability - Finding Your Perfect Match

Love relationships are very important in everyone's life. If you have traumatic love relationships when you are young, you'll face tragic future situations. If you have no love relationships at all, you'll develop a dangerous complex. You may even become mentally ill.

Love is in fact very dangerous. When you are in love, you cannot control your behavior. You cannot respect your moral principals. You become a slave of your feelings.

This is why the unconscious mind that produces your dreams sends you many dreams with objective information about the person you love.

You have many advantages in life when you are able to translate the meaning of dreams before getting married. The unconscious mind helps you find your perfect match, and have a perfect love relationship.

Wish I knew everything I know today when I was very young. However, at that time I was only gradually discovering the importance of the dream messages.

I had a warning about my husband in a dream before getting married, but I didn't believe that dreams should be trusted. I didn't know how to translate the meaning of dreams at that time. However, the warning was so clear that anyone could easily understand it.

This happened because dreams about love are not as symbolic as dreams about our mental health.

I should have listened to the voice that told me in a dream that my husband wouldn't love me for long. His love had a very short duration because he only wanted to take advantage of my naive character. My husband was looking for a wife who would help him succeed in life. He never really loved me. He was an actor.

When I started having daily fights with him, I remembered the dream I had advising me that my husband's love would have a short duration. This fact helped me understand that I had to pay attention to dream warnings. My marriage was one of the worst mistakes I made in my life.

I didn't love my husband either. He was a very good friend who insisted very much on having a love relationship with me. In the end I decided to give him a chance.

This marriage couldn't have a happy end. It was based on mistakes and lies.

However, I couldn't understand this truth at that time. I was very ignorant, and I used to believe in unreal things. I was a slave of my rational psychological type. In other words, only my ideas were important for me. I belonged to the introverted psychological type based on thoughts. I had no feelings. I was totally insensitive.

My husband was a slave of his psychological type too. He belonged to the extroverted psychological type based on intuitions. He could guess the future development of reality, especially concerning business deals. He was always pursuing new money-making opportunities, but he didn't want to work too long on his plans.

Our personalities didn't fit together; we were totally different. However, we couldn't understand our own absurdity for deciding to get married. We thought we could shape our lives the way we wanted to.

There are many couples that make similar mistakes, for different reasons. There are people who are slaves of their feelings, and cannot logically understand that the person they love is not the ideal one for them. Other people care only about sexual pleasure, without paying attention to their inner feelings. I could give you numerous examples of love relationships based on false impressions and lies.

If you'll seriously think about all the mistakes you could make in life, you'll clearly understand that there are too many dangers threatening your happiness. A tragic love relationship can ruin your life and your mental stability forever.

You need protection.

I advise you to study the meaning of dreams about love because they are very simple, and this precious knowledge will save your life. Learn everything you can about the person you love before getting married. Learn also everything you can about yourself. You'll never find authentic happiness by chance.

I became a psychiatrist and psychologist for being able to help everyone find sound mental health by obeying the unconscious guidance in dreams. I'm only a human being, but the wise unconscious mind that produces our dreams has a divine origin.

The first ones I wanted to help when I started working online were the most desperate ones. I started helping people who wanted to commit suicide, especially young people who abuse their bodies. Self-abuse is one of the worst mental disorders existent today. It affects teenagers and young adults.

I had various conversations with teens who abuse their bodies. I also translated the dreams of a few of them.

They don't accept advice, and they don't want to follow psychotherapy.

I understood that I would only be able to help these teens by helping their parents. This is why I decide to work on helping everyone find love and happiness in life before getting married.

Everything begins with a marriage, this fatal step in everyone's life.

When the couple is not happy together, their children won't learn how to be happy, but develop mental illnesses and mental disorders. Everyone is very vulnerable to mental illnesses because we inherit a totally absurd primitive conscience into the biggest part of our brain.

I know that you don't want to think about depression now that you are young, and you have many beautiful plans. However, there are many hidden traps in your journey.

You can very easily lose your mental stability, form a problematic family, and then, have depressed children. Pay attention to this fact, and care about eliminating all the possibilities of failure from your destiny. You have this power if you obey the unconscious wisdom.

Don't make ridiculous mistakes for being a slave of your psychological type. Don't let your primitive conscience control your behavior. Find your perfect match before getting involved with the wrong person.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung's research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.
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Relationship Addicts - Finding the Cure

Yes, there are many types of addicts in this world we have today. Not all addicts are addicted to some type of drug. If you have been in and out of relationships, if you suffer great emotional pain when a relationship ends, if you fell lost and incomplete when you are not in a relationship, then you may be a "relationship addict". This is not to be taken lightly, as it can greatly affect your emotional health, your self-esteem and the way in which you cope with all aspects of your personal life. Work, other family members, friends and yes, you, will all be affected negatively by this addiction.

The great majority of people, (woman more so than men), at some point in their life reach the point of craving a strong and loving relationship. When this craving gets out of control, this can be very detrimental. One must first look to the reasons of why this craving may be so strong. The next step is to identify the elements that show an addiction to relationships. Once this has been done, one can then effectively overcome this obstacle, if one truly desires to escape the emotional Hell of being addicted.

Woman are taught from a young age, that finding true love is the ultimate goal. Even with "woman's lib" in the equation, we are bombarded at a young age of timeless and enchanting love stories. Cinderella gets swept away from her lonely and poor life by a wonderful, handsome prince. Snow White is sent away from an unhappy existence and finds herself happy and content, only for her happiness to increase when the love of her life dramatically finds her and takes her off to live happily ever after. Belle, finds herself in love with the "Beast", and she has a wonderful romantic ending also. The list is endless. Television shows, love movies, romance novels and the media's attention to famous celebrities in love only add to our dream of finding "the one".

Reality is quite an extreme to the fantasy world of love. Reality shows us that love does not come easily. Most often one must enter and exit many relationships before finding the one wonderful connection. One must also entertain the thought that even once finding the person we believe that we will go through life together with, the overall divorce rate seems to rise every day, offering us absolutely no guarantees of a lifetime successful relationship.

When the craving for a relationship overtakes our life that is when one can be considered a "relationship addict". What are the signs? There are many, we will touch on the most common, keeping in mind that these will all have difference variances depending on the individual involved.

If you fall in love very quickly, this can point to a problem of craving a relationship to an extreme. It takes an extraordinary amount of time, patience and understanding to truly know another and reach the point of having strong and true love. If you find yourself falling in love very quickly, this can mean that you are not actually falling in love with another person, but you may be in love with the idea of being in love.

If you also fall out of love quickly, this can show that you have no tolerance to anything that you deem "less than perfect". One must realize that no relationship is perfect. If you leave someone at for a reason that is not substantiated whatsoever, you may be searching for a relationship ideal that does not exist. Caught in the fantasy of finding your "prince", a mere mortal man simply won't do.

If in your moments of being single, you find your life almost unbearable, this can also be a very severe sign that you are a relationship addict. If unable to function properly without a man in your life, one can seem to fall apart emotionally. Depending on a man to fix all of your problems, sweep you off your feet and love you forever is a wonderful thought, however it most probably is not going to happen in the fantasy way that you hope for. When the imminent breakups follow, you feel betrayed, lost and angry that you did not receive that love that you felt you deserved. What do you do? If you immediately go out and seek another lover, you are a relationship addict.

When you are single and searching, if you find that you have an extreme empty feeling inside yourself, this may be another sign. If is, of course, quite normal for a single person to feel lonely, to wish for a strong and healthy relationship and have a goal of finding a lover. However, if in the moments that there is no man in your life and you look to other means to fill the empty feeling that is also a clear sign of being a relationship addict. Overeating is a very common replacement to cure the lonely blues. One may also indulge in unhealthy habits, such as smoking more cigarettes than usual, using illegal drugs or going on shopping binges. Any activity that you do not display when in a relationship and it is detrimental to your health, finances or emotional wellbeing is a warning flag.

If a person recognizes these signs and admits to being a relationship addict, there are several steps that one can take to attempt to overcome this problem. As cliché' as it may sound, remember the saying " You came into this world alone, you will leave this world alone". People will encounter a large array of others throughout their life: Acquaintances, friends, lovers. Most of the people we meet along our journey will enter and at some point, they will leave. One must forget about the fairy tales of princes and accept the reality of which we live in.

In sustaining a relationship, one must take into consideration that no other person on the God given Earth is perfect. If hoping to find a perfect mate, you will remain in an endless cycle. This is not to say that one should lower their standards, or enter into a relationship with someone who does not display all of the qualities we seek in a mate. The important key is that one is realistic of the qualities that they desire for their mate to possess.

If you are replacing a man with bad and damaging habits, it may help to understand that there is nothing wrong, stereotyping or nor is it deemed as "less than acceptable" to be single. When one is single, it presents a terrific opportunity to focus on their life, their work, their health, their emotional growth. Do not look at this time as an "in-between" time, rather look at it for what it is: A phase of your life in which you are being self-sufficient and in control of your own life.

If one has patience, a realistic outlook and high self-esteem, one places themselves in a fantastic position. When the right person comes along, your physical and emotional health will be optimal, thus allowing you to enjoy the relationship that ensues. If the relationship falters, and you do not allow yourself to be a relationship addict, you will be able to deal with the situation, hold your head high and go back to being singles without feeling shame. Take pride in whatever life you have created for yourself. While we will always seek out and notice people in better situations, we usually fail to recognize those that are less fortunate than we are. Be grateful of what you do have, and be realistic of the goals you set for yourself.

Written by Alisa Chagon, webmaster and sole writer of http://www.lovebulletin.com

Finding Stillness - Four Powerful Steps to Innerwealth - Inner Health

Finding Stillness

Not sleeping well? Facing challenge? Feeling tired or exhausted allot? Getting run down, unfit? You might be thinking "I need a break" or to "change my workplace" but think it through, "if you always do, what you've always done, you'll always get, what you've always got" What you might need is a change of heart. Smarter thinking, less work hours, more precision, less confusion, more energy for the other side of your life.

The key to all this is how you manage your ego.

Your ego is a mass of thoughts, both conscious and unconscious. So, getting through it is complex, drawn out process, similar to cleaning the mud out of muddy water in a bucket. The more you dip you hand in, the more you stir up the mud and the harder it is to clean.

So, rather than get tangled cleaning up the ego, the better way is, to jump over it. Your heart and mind need a home that is not centred in that muddy world of your ego. Money needs a bank, an aeroplane needs a runway, your body needs safety at night and your mind and heart need a home outside the ego.

The unique home your mind and heart need is stillness, it is a space, a state of mind. Stillness is a space from which sleep is deep, facing challenge is easy, certainty comes and thinking is clearer. It is a space where calm and rest are automatic. This space of stillness is also the primary requirement for inspiration and love. It is a solid base from which you can launch and return when you need it.

Your ego can win and these are the spoils of its victory over your heart -mind space.

Sleeplessness

Depression

Anxiety

Stress

Uncertainty

Long working hours

Unproductive mind states

Emotional drama

Stubbornness

Regret

Anger

Envy

These are the battles the ego can't win

Gratitude

Presence

Certainty

Love

Jumping the ego - finding stillness

In order to learn the skills of jumping the ego, you will need to be prepared to practice certain disciplines. The learning can take some weeks but in the end, the space you will own and be able to return to at will, is worth the effort.

Practice Discipline 1. Dead stillness

If your body, mind and heart were a horse and carriage. The horses would be the body, the carriage the heart of it, and the driver the mind. For the vast majority of people, the horses drive the cart rather than pull it. In other words most people let their body rule their head and heart. Therefore, the first skill requirement for understanding the art of stillness, is to train the body to obey the mind. That means, being dead still for 10 minutes, in one place, not even moving a finger. Try it. It is harder than you think.

Practice discipline 2. Observation

How many times have you found yourself angry and frustrated because someone doesn't understand you? This reveals a common human issue. We think that we are what we think. Attachment to our knowledge, beliefs, stories, expectations spells trouble for everyone of us. It is from this fundamental place that all our struggles and challenges begin. Therefore, separating ourselves from what we think is a magic pill, an automatic release from a very troublesome habit. See if you can conceptualise this. You are not your morals and ethics. You are not your achievements. You are not what you think. Your opinions about things are your egoistic projection of who you think you'd like to be. Everything that you think, know, believe and worship is simply your ego trying to create some sense of permanency in an impermanent life (you are going to die one day for sure)

Once you have learned to be "dead still" the second discipline is to kill the power of the ego. "dead thinking" - In a state of dead stillness, and preferably only after you master that skill for 10 minutes, you start to withdraw yourself from your thoughts. You achieve this by just watching them. Now, this is more challenging than it sounds because you must not try. Therefore, you must let any thought that chooses to be in your head, surface. These might not be "nice" according to your self projection of who you are, but this is the art of emptiness. To just watch your thoughts without expectation or judgement. It sounds boring to some people, a waste of time to others, but please, tell those ego's it's ok, you will return to your ego after you finish.

Practice discipline 3. Non Violence - Seeking order

This is the most challenging step because it is the re engineering of the structure of the ego. Disturbance comes to us because our expectations are not met in life. But sometimes those expectations are at fault, not the event. As a result, we commit a grave act of violence on ourselves and others, expectations that are false. So, this third and most difficult step is to change the way (not what) we think.

Innerwealth means thinking with real expectations. There are five key principles that underpin these real expectations, a sort of filter through which, illusion cannot pass. At first these five principles are challenging, it can take some tough love to cause your ego to let go of false stories and attachments, but it will if you just persist.

The five universal laws of nature are simple, but your ego mind might just kick like a horse when you consider them.

1/ Balance - support and challenge are balanced and you live on the border of both.

2/ Harmony - What you appreciate grows. What you don't appreciate you attract.

3/ Abundance - Nothing is missing it just changes in form.

4/ Growth - Evolve or devolve, about growth you have no choice.

5/ Higher order - There's order in the chaos and someone always sees it more than you.

The skills required in the development of these five ego filters can be challenging. For example; most people think there can be a right without a wrong, a bad something (like global warming) without a good. That fails the first law. Another myth, is that of gratitude. People are so grateful for what they can see benefit in, and want to change the things they call bad. That's not gratitude. Gratitude means not wanting to change anything, appreciation for things as they are. These concepts challenge the constructs of our ego mind. And because we think we are what we think, they cause huge confrontation as we try to save our selves from extinction. (ego loss)

Practice discipline number 4. Mind Control

The final step is the cream on the cake. The final step involves the taming of the mind to work for you, to create what you want and deserve in life.

This final step of mind control involves just four states of mind from which all can flow. Those four states of mind are:

Gratitude

Presence

Certainty

Love

Gratitude

Although we have spoken about gratitude earlier, we have not explored the consequence of ingratitude. Wanting to change, fix, make better can be motivated by many things, but the worst is ingratitude for what is. Sitting looking at your dinner plate, wishing it were different, causes illness no matter what the food. Some people spend a fortune on organic food and then fill their mind with complaints about global warming. Health and gratitude are the same topic, but how can we be thankful for everything?

Maybe the answer lies in the middle path. If there are two sides to everything, (the first law of nature) then surely we will be thankful for one side (the positive) and unthankful for the other side (the negative) the consequence is neutral. Neutral is referred to as "An Open Heart" and this is an amazing state from which to act. Thankful for the gifts that come from the negative and the positive means that in the pain or suffering that comes from any event or circumstance there is good. (please avoid the idea that the reaction to pain, challenge, suffering is the gift - pain takes us somewhere and that is the gift.

Presence

Emotion and presence are enemies in battle. Emotions cannot exist in the NOW. They can only exist when we think about the past, or the future. Fear and guilt. So the emotional person is both dwelling in the past, and hopeful into the future. This turbulence eventually sabotages all they desire. Learning the art of presence comes automatically to those who practice stillness.

When we are not present, our relationships both at home and at work suffer. As a consequence we become forgetful, possibly clumsy and accident prone. Long term lack of presence will result in problems with the nervous system, mental health problems and stress related illness.

Certainty

For most people, hard work and certainty go hand in hand. The average business person might perceive that the harder they work the more they are guaranteed of achieving their goals. A performer and an artist knows better. Surely, discipline and application are keys to positive results from our time and effort, but hard work and stress does not cause any increase in the certainty of the outcome.

Certainty comes through simplicity. Name the four things that, if you did them with absolute diligence on a daily basis, you would achieve your 10 highest priority dreams. For example; my purpose in life is to guide people to love. So my four things to do every day are to; explore, write, share and inspire. If I do these those every day, I can forget the goals, my daily habits will cause them automatically.

Uncertainty comes from the lack of patience, greed, hunger, distraction and dissatisfaction. When you stop wanting, and appreciate what you have, this is the energy that generates the certainty to manifest. Greed makes us reach without discernment, hunger leads us to fulfil our appetite with substitutes, distraction causes us to loose our focus (drop the bone) and dissatisfaction (fear) drives away the energy and support that people want to give us, naturally.

Love

Many people say "do what you love" but they are fooling you. Wisdom is to learn to "Love what you do" - no matter what it is. Love is an unstoppable force - to love, but this force cannot be applied exclusively. The individual who cannot learn to love their circumstance, will forever find cause to run from it either physically or emotionally. Many therapist, healers, yoga teachers, change consultants don't know how to love. They have divided the world into lovable or unlovable. They run to create more of the lovable half and work diligently to eradicate the unlovable half.

What separates us from love is our ego. As we now realize the ego is a complex and most essential part of human nature, without it there'd be a rather emotionless world. It's these emotions, some good some bad, that motivate the average person to get out of bed, donate to charity, compete in business and of course, shoot their neighbour in the head. If you choose to subscribe to good emotions, then you'll just have to accept the presence of the bad ones. There is no half life, with good emotions without bad. Love is the absence of both. A timeless, spaceless place in which authenticity exists. Love therefore is without expectations, and without expectations, we cannot be disturbed, mind, body or heart. This is the resting place of all truth, in the stillness of unconditional love.

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Chris Walker

July 2007

http://www.chriswalker.com.au Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chris?s work and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.chriswalker.com.au -- http://www.chriswalker.com.au