Feng Shui Your Relationships to Prevent Break-Ups

How to spot feng shui harmful to relationships

Relationships, like technology, are becoming more complicated all the time. There are so many factors to consider in relationships today that didn't come into play in years past. Nowadays, the woman may be the breadwinner and it may be the man who stays at home with the kids. What hasn't changed, though, is the importance and the need for close, secure relationships.

We often use relationships continue to define us. We seek out that all-perfect-soul-mate connection with that one true love. We also work to make close and unbreakable connections with our children, parents, friends, and siblings. It's the connections that sustain us during times of trouble and when there are problems. That's what makes every relationship -- from romantic to familial -- crucial. They are our lifelines in life's stormy waters.

But what happens when relationships aren't so smooth? Or, when unexplainable change begins to occur in relationships? That's when it is time to look at your environment to see if there is something that could be causing friction in your dealings with those you care about. Fortunately, feng shui has a number of methods for making an environmental diagnosis of problems in relationships.

Check some of these ideas below to see if your relationships might be suffering -- or if there is feng shui potential for a break-up. It's worth looking into because we never want to see our relationships suffer, or worse, be lost altogether.

1. Is someone missing in your home? In feng shui, the northwest is the sector of the man and the southwest is the sector of the woman. If either sector is missing, it is possible that either the man or the woman is also missing, such as being away at work all the time. One couple had the northwest corner of the home missing and the husband was always traveling or working overtime. One they moved to a new house, the husband was at home nights and their marriage was saved.

2. Is there a toilet in the man or woman sector? Having a toilet in either the northwest or southwest corners of your home can create problems in the relationship. Either there will be fatigue or ill health, or the man or woman will be overworked and underappreciated.

If this is the case in your home, be sure to boost the southwest or northwest corner of the living room to lift the energy of the person in question. Then, make certain that the bathrooms in these sectors have been handled appropriately (i.e., a plant in the southwest corner bathroom, or blue colors in the northwest bathroom). This will keep the negative toilet energy from impacting that person.

3. Are there problems with the whole family? Check the east sector of the house and the east corner of the living room. The east is the sector of family relationships. If, for instance, there is a toilet in the east corner of the house, be sure to place red items in here or paint the room red. Or, you can decorate in white and metal elements. Reds and metal colors exhaust the negative energy of the toilet when it is in the east sector. If there is a fireplace, then this will exhaust the relationships maybe through frequent arguments. If you have one of these, put a picture of water over the fireplace to drown the fire that might be exhausting your family feelings.

4. If children are unhappy look west. The west sector is the sector of the children. If there are water elements in this area, such as a shower or bathroom, it can cause problems and difficulties with the children. Increase earth elements in the home, such as by placing vases or beautiful stones in the west corner of the living room to boost the children. Likewise, you may also wish to add metal elements as well, such as metal vases or sculpture. If there is a kitchen or a fireplace, again, the water is helpful, but so are earth elements, such as globes, maps, vases, or stones.

5. Your house shape could be the culprit. Many houses are irregularly shaped and have missing sectors. This can create problems with household members -- particularly if the man or woman or children's sectors are missing. Try to regularize the house and boost the missing sectors of your house by activating those sectors in the living room. For a missing southwest sector (romance, marital happiness, woman), northwest sector (man, breadwinner), or west sector (children, creativity) add a globe. Globes are great "anchors" for the southwest, northwest, and west sectors.

6. Check your heart -- or center -- sector. The heart sector is a critical piece of the relationship puzzle in feng shui. Without a strong center sector, health, wealth, and relationships can all suffer. Many homes are built with an open center. This creates a "hole in the heart" of the home, and can cause heartbreak and divorce as well as bankruptcy. Double this if the home has a tree or plants growing in the center sector.

The center sector is an earth sector. Plants -- and especially trees -- destroy earth and may have played a pivotal role in the break-up of Jennifer Anniston and Brad Pitt. This was also a key element in a home that was designed by one couple. Going with a typical Spanish style home, they had a courtyard in the middle with a large fountain and big trees. This not only created a divorce, it also created bankruptcy. Although beautiful, this house was not worth the heartache it created.

If the house has a kitchen in the center, it can create severe disagreements and heated arguments. In this case, water colors, such as blue and black should be placed here as well as other water elements, such as an aquarium or urn of water. If a bathroom is in the center, then there should be a plant motif or colors (greens and browns) used here.

Kathryn Weber is the publisher of the Red Lotus Letter Feng Shui E-zine and certified feng shui consultant in classical Chinese feng shui. Kathryn helps her readers improve their lives and generate more wealth with feng shui. For more information visit http://www.redlotusletter.com and learn the fast and fun way how feng shui can make your life more prosperous and abundant! To subscribe and receive the FREE Ebook, "Easy Money - 3 Steps to Building Massive Wealth with Feng Shui,"logon to http://www.redlotusletter.com

How to Prevent Unhealthy Relationships

In order to steer clear of unhealthy relationships, it's essential to be able to know what a healthy one is. If our primary example regarding marriage is our parents, and we aren't too thrilled with many of the traits their relationship has or had, we need to consider what a healthy relationship does look like.

Now...many years ago, before there were scanning machines to detect counterfeit money, bank employees were trained to recognize the real from the fake. What's most important...is that they spent all their time studying the original article, and no time on studying the fake. The goal was to get the employees so conditioned to the features of the genuine article that anything that deviated from it would stand out immediately. In relationships, it works exactly the same way. The traits of a healthy relationship is what we need to concentrate our focus on.

A healthy relationship is one that involves 2 people who invest their time and energy to build a team. The relationship is a high priority for both members and requires attention for it to grow and get stronger. This seems so obvious, yet to most people it's not. People from all walks of life, consistently say that their family relationships are a top priority. The core of the family is the marriage relationship. In any organization, the health of the relationship of those steering the ship is foundational to it's long term success. Yet, in spite of what the vast majority of people claim is important to them, their actions don't match their words. Work, children, friends, hobbies, in-laws and out-laws, and a multitude of other activities and relationships are allowed to crowd the couple out from their proper place of importance within the family unit.

The same principles that governs physical fitness or the obtaining of a desired goal, affect the health and wellness of a dating or marriage relationship. Far more often than not, what we put into it, we get out. Mutual trust and respect for each other's thoughts and feelings is a hallmark of a healthy relationship. Each person's uniqueness is honored and viewed as a valuable element of the team. A key to the team's strength is found in it's diversity.

Unfortunately, the unique traits of a spouse that were once considered highly attractive, often become the main reasons for unhappiness in an unhealthy relationship. Men and women begin to want their partner to behave more like them, to think like them and understand their unique point of view in spite of the fact that not only are men and women radically different biologically, they are socialized and conditioned very differently as well.

Couples in a healthy relationship understand that trust and respect, for the most part, is earned. If I behave in a manner that is trustworthy by keeping my commitments, I can earn both trust and respect. Even though I may not share my wife's opinions and feelings on a given subject, I can earn her trust and respect by allowing her to think and feel what she wants.

In healthy relationships, listening is vital, agreement is not. Listening does not mean agreeing. A healthy relationship allows for differences of opinion. They are accepted and welcomed, and they enrich the relationship. It's normal to disagree without becoming disagreeable. Disagreement does not equal rejection in healthy relationships. That's worth repeating. In healthy relationships, disagreement does not equal rejection.

For the relationship to prosper, it's imperative that there is agreement on values. Spiritual or religious beliefs need to be considered if the couple is to prosper, as do values and beliefs regarding work, child raising and in-laws. Time spent discussing issues like "how to raise the children", is a requirement in a healthy relationship. Is it best for the family to have one of the parent's staying home with the children? What if your in-laws come to stay for an extended period of time...how do you feel? Are you a fitness buff and your spouse is a couch potato? If you want a family and a career, how will you work to do both at the same time? Do the two of you agree on where your child will be schooled?

Your values and beliefs are the primary sources that you will use to answer these important questions. These need serious consideration for your relationship to thrive.

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