Relationship Psychology - "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus"

The famous book by John Gray dealing with relationship psychology, written some twenty years ago, highlights the differences in the way men and women think and look at the problems that arise in any relationship. Whether you are dating or married there are going to be times when you argue and looking at the psychology behind the differences between male and female thought patterns, will help you to understand the others point of view. You may need some sort of counseling in order for you both to understand how the other thinks and feels.

"The study funded by the National Institute of Mental Health, highlighted some of these points, in that most couples, for example, who had been together for only a couple of months between the ages of 18 and 21 avoided intimacy and being dependent on their other half. They also showed levels of anxiety concerning being rejected or abandoned. Those tested all exhibited different degrees of the anxiety over being abandoned. Those who were more secure in themselves had lower levels and others, who were less secure showed increased levels"

The results also laid out the interesting differences in these levels between men and women. On the psychological side it was noticed that when dealing with relationship conflict, most men showed increased levels of anxiety whilst, only women who wished to keep away from change showed increased levels.

So we can see that women are more likely to want guide the reconciliation process to a swift end, as they find it more physiologically rewarding. This is demonstrated in the research which tended to show that the levels of Cortisol in both increased before and during the argument, and women's levels dropped significantly after, unlike most men.

Cortisol is usually referred to as the "stress hormone" as it is involved in response to stress and anxiety typically the highest levels are in the early morning. So be nice to each other when you first wake up.

Men, on the other hand, showed a more continuous reaction to Cortisol so they were more passive towards the reconciliation because the prolonged levels made them less able to face the conflict head on, even when they wanted to have resolution.

Should you decide to look for relationship advice in whatever form you wish, on line, family or relationship counseling, you will receive guidance towards the understanding of how both men and women see and react to situations differently. Having gained an understanding of these differences, as demonstrated in the research, you will be able know how to react to any areas of conflict within your relationship.

A basic understanding of how Relationship Psychology works between couples, and help you to deal with the arguments that happen from time to time, as it will help you to change these arguments round and make things better rather than worse.

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