Many people have the unfortunate experience of being involved in a toxic relationship. Whatever the issue that has created the damaging dynamic between the partners - abusive behavior, untreated addictions, affairs, or personality disorders - the result in often a partner who suffers a blow to self esteem and self worth through the destructive behavior of the toxic partner. If you've chosen to break free of such a toxic scenario for your own well being, this is a huge step and requires a lot of courage. However, it is important to have support and resources internally and externally to help you stay strong. Here are 3 steps for successfully following through on your decision to leave a toxic relationship:
1. Make your physical well being a priority. Your mind and body are connected, and the health of one affects the health of the other. Focus on eating healthy foods, preferably unprocessed, organic choices. Take vitamins and supplements as needed. A naturopath can construct a tailored supplement plan for you - many people can benefit from adding a fish oil and food based multivitamin supplement as a start. Exercise regularly according to your doctor's recommendation. Cardiovascular exercise is excellent for releasing endorphins, the feel good compounds that contribute to a greater sense of well being. These measures will improve your physical health and send you a message that you are worth the effort.
2. Gather and develop your support network. Spend time with loving friends and family. It is important that you hear as many positive messages about your worth as possible to help counteract the negative messages you assimilated through being in the toxic relationship. Don't hesitate to hire support professionals such as counselors and coaches to help you heal and achieve visions and goals for your future.
3. Avoid interaction with your toxic ex partner. Your ex partner is likely to continue to use whatever tactics that worked to hold you in the relationship. Give yourself some time to gain strength and perspective. If you must have contact with your toxic ex due to sharing custody with children, etc, keep your communication centered around the issue at hand. If the conversation gets off track or personal, disengage and either hang up the phone or leave.
By the way, what is holding you back from making the best choices to achieve the life you deserve?
For a free copy of my ebook, "Strategies For Escaping Emotional Abuse", click here: http://www.stoptoxicrelationships.com/gifts-strategiesforescapingemotionalabuse.html
Shannon Cook is a personal coach and resource guide who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and "difficult" divorces, including the physical, emotional, practical and relationship components.
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