Building Trust in a Relationship in Seven Steps

Trust is perhaps the most basic and yet most necessary element of a successful relationship. It is only when we are able to fully trust our partner and that they are able to fully trust us that we are truly safe and happy. It is easy to get caught up in sensual chemistry, commons interests, that "magic:" that TV and the movies tell us we needs to have when in fact, predictability, routine, and having things we can count on are much more important to the health of a relationship. The seven suggestions that follow will help you to identify if your relationship is a good one and if not, how to make your relationship successful. What follows are seven steps that will help you to build trust in a relationship.

The first thing to look at is consistency. How consistent are you in your relationship? How about your partner? Can you count on each other? Are you there for each other day to day in consistent ways? Romance and excitement are nice adornments, but day to day routine and consistent expectations contribute to a feeling of safety. Being reliable on a day to day basis will build a relationship based on trust.

The next thing you need to pay attention to are communication skills. How well do you deliver your intended message to your partner and them to you? Do your words match your facial expressions? Does your body language match what you are saying? Also, is your intended message being received? Most disagreements in a relationship occur due to a misunderstanding. It isn't the toothpaste cap that is the issue; it is typically an underlying communication mishap. You and your partner need to be able to trust each other's words, to have complete surety that what is being said is exactly what is intended. When your words match your body language, when you say what you mean, you will build trust in a relationship.

Believing in yourself, believing in your partner and in each other's competence as human beings is crucial to a relationship built on trust. If there are aspects of your partner that you are not comfortable with, a gentle and honest discussion about your insecurities is far better than silence, fear and resentment for building trust in a relationship. Finding your partner's strengths and then noticing them with compliments and praise creates a feeling of safety and acceptance in their part. This will, in turn, come back to you. If your partner does something you don't like or is inadequate at something that is important to you, a loving and accepting conversation, while perhaps difficult, will become the base of a loving and trusting relationship.

Complete honesty is imperative in any successful relationship. The fourth step you must take is learning and practicing how to be truthful with your partner. You cannot build trust in a relationship if you are keeping secrets. Secrecy of any kind will destroy the trust in a relationship. Being honest and open can seem basic and easy but it requires intention. The truth will always be revealed and the truth will always set you free. Keeping a secret puts barrier between you and your partner. Secrets require energy to keep and more lies to maintain. This is time and energy you could be putting into your relationship. No matter how difficult it may seem, an honest and open relationship will always be a trusting relationship.

Good communication has already been identified a necessary part of building trust in a relationship but the fifth step, communicating your needs takes this to the next level. It can be uncomfortable to share your needs, especially early on in a relationship. But we get our needs met whether we express them or not and often in unhealthy ways. In order to keep solid in your relationship and build trust it is necessary to share your needs, physical, emotional and social with your partner. You must also be willing to hear your partner's needs and try to meet them. Making your girlfriend or boyfriend guesses what you need or what you are upset about creates tension and resentment which will get in the way of building trust in a relationship. Expressing your needs does not make you selfish but rather self aware and this will go a long way in being able to trust your partner.

The Sixth Step is to learn to say no. It is human nature to want to please others, but when you are putting some else's need and wants ahead of yours all the time it can have a negative effect. When you say yes and actually mean no then you send a conflicted message that will make your partner uncomfortable. He/she needs to know that you mean what you say. It is a good thing when your partner voices his or her needs but you don't need to say yes to everything. Saying no when you need to will help your partner see who you are and respect you because you are laying down boundaries. A partner cannot respect you if you never say no. Standing your ground, when appropriate, and seeing your partner do the same creates a climate of give and take and will help to build trust in a relationship.

Step number seven is all about you. You must always continue to grow and stretch as a human being. Anything that is alive needs constant nurturing and attention and is always growing and changing. By continually bettering yourself and allowing and encouraging your partner to do the same you become two stronger halves of your whole relationship. You must also continually nurture the relationship as its own living entity, separate from the two of you. Like a river, there are times when the water slows and gets murky. It widens and slows, the bottom disappears. Eventually, to maintain health, the river becomes narrow and turbulent. The water flows over rocks and tumbles down waterfalls. Your relationship will do the same and while the rocky parts can feel uncomfortable, the cleanest water is just after a waterfall. Acknowledging these aspects of a relationship and weathering them together will build trust in a relationship.

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Building a Strong Doctor-Patient Relationship

A good doctor/patient relationship is built upon three important factors. They are trust, honesty and participation. Building on each of these factors will improve your relationship with your physician and contribute to healthier living.

Having a doctor that you trust is essential to your own well-being. Choosing an MD can be a challenge, but advice from friends and family members can help find a doctor you can have confidence in. You must trust your physician to be competent and well prepared in his field. He should have enough experience to properly diagnose your problems and prescribe appropriate treatments. As a man or woman of integrity you can be assured that your discussions are private and confidential. If you find yourself wondering about the quality of your doctor's advice or if you just don't have enough trust in them to share your deepest concerns then you should probably be searching for a new doctor.

Technology has given us great strides in medical care. But we still haven't figured out how to read someone's mind. Your physician can only help you if you will be honest and forthcoming with him. Some medical conditions are embarrassing. We don't like doctor's visits because know that our life will likely be laid bare. But failing to share all of your problems can lead to a misdiagnosis and improper treatment. And sometimes unwillingness to be honest can be life threatening. Honesty hinges on trust. If you do not trust your doctor you will probably not be honest with her. If you cannot be honest with your doctor then it's time to move on.

In the past, patients were usually passive in the health care relationship. You went to the doctor, they checked your weight, your blood pressure, listened to your heart and lungs and then pronounced your problem. Not so today. Patients are now participants with the MD. In fact, many no longer use the term "patient" but speak of "clients" instead. You play an active role in your own health and wellness.

When you visit your doctor, take along a written list of problems or health changes you have noticed since your last visit. A written list of very specific questions is also useful. While visiting with the doctor be sure and ask those questions and insist on an answer you can understand. Be prepared to write down words that are unfamiliar to you so that you can research them when you get home.

Trust, honesty and participation will pay great health dividends. You will find that your visits to the doctor's office are calmer and less troubling because you are ready to work together with doctor for your own health care. Finding a doctor you can trust, be honest with and participate with can be challenging. But once you've found them you will be greatly rewarded.

Bryant Evans writes about health and fitness at The Belly Monster Blog [http://bellymonsterblog.com] He is a former Registered Nurse who now focuses on better living and patient education.

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Do You Want A Great Blog? Start Building Great Relationships!

If I walked-up to you this minute and asked you to recommend a great restaurant what name immediately comes to mind? Now if I were to ask you WHY you recommended this restaurant would it be the food, atmosphere, service, or all of the above? There are probably hundreds of restaurants in your city that do a great job on one or more of these factors. So why did you make the recommendation you did? Because the business you recommended combined all of the factors to build a great relationship with you - their customer.

Your blog - and your blog's resulting financial success is similar to the restaurant example. There are many factors important to readers of blogs covering your topic. These include content, convenience, ease-of-use, the "tone", exclusivity, and others. While there probably are many blogs that lay claim to being best at any one of these, it is the combination of these factors that will be important to your readers.

Why? Because your readers are searching for relevance. Providing relevant content, ease-of-use, and "tone" helps build trust between your blog and your readers. This trust is what develops relationships. Once you've built a relationship then you can continually provide relevant solutions to your readers they will purchase, creating the income you desire from your blog.

So, how do you develop a great relationship with your readers? It begins by truly understanding who your readers are. You need to work on developing a reader profile - or profiles - that act to help encourage conversations. As with your own relationships, the better and stronger your conversations, the better the relationship.

How do you develop this profile? Think about your current and potential readers. Who are they? If you could create a description, how old would they be? What kind of job would they have? Are they male or female? What about their level of education? Do they children? How old are their children? When you think about it - if someone were to ask you these questions about a good friend, you probably could answer them. The reason is that you've had a number of conversations with this friend and this has resulted in a strong relationship. Your relationship with your readers requires similar understanding and commitment.

After you've got your reader profile developed - what's next? Think about your reader's needs based on the profile you've developed. Needs might include security, esteem, and health. Based on these needs your readers have certain wants. Wants might include learning how-to exercise and eat more healthy food. Another want might be to stay at home with children while replacing income from a full-time job. Or learning how-to write better articles and headlines so your content is read by, and helps more people.

Now you've got a reader profile and an idea of your reader's needs and wants. The next step is to begin to develop content to satisfy these needs and wants. For example you could produce a series of articles or podcasts on preparing healthy food. This would satisfy a "want" - learning how to prepare health food - and a "need" which is a more general level of health. The key is to take your reader profile and create a series of blog posts and content ideas based on anticipated needs and wants.

As you publish your content you'll find that your reader's comments and other feedback will help you fine-tune your material so that it truly meets their needs. It is important to accept this feedback as if you were having a conversation with a good friend. Making changes to your content based on your reader's feedback shows them you are sincere in your efforts to provide them with solutions to their specific needs and wants. This will help you truly build great relationships.

As your readership increases and your relationships with readers improve, you will quickly learn about additional problems and challenges they are facing. What can you produce that provides your readers with a solution? Would they be willing to pay you for providing the solution? If you've done a good job relationship building the answer will be yes. The most successful blogs do just that. They've built great relationships with their readers, taken the time to have conversations with them about their problems, and have developed solutions to help solve these problems.

Finally remember that great content builds relevance. Relevance builds trust. Trust builds relationships. Relationships provide the basis for building a strong business.

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Building Relationships That Last - How to Attract Positive Relationships

As I have discussed, life can be like a puzzle, with the four corner pieces in place, the rest is easier to put together. This is a deeper look into the fourth corner, your relationship health. The first corner being your physical health, second is mental health and third is spiritual health.

We are designed to build relationships. Family can be used as an example of a relationship. Although, family is a relative term, it can be used to describe numerous kinds of relationships in your life.

There could be people you care about, and who you are in relationship with, that are not blood relatives. However, because of time spent together building and growing, you are a "family" of sorts. You may also have blood-relatives who have not spent time in your life and although you are related, they may not feel like family.

Family comes from a close nurturing relationship. There is a family you come from, and families you build. Many are lucky enough to have other groups that are considered "family" to nurture them. These kinds of non-traditional relationships are very valuable, but often overlooked.

Research has shown that people who engage in regular social interaction or who have close friendships live longer and are happier. What a surprise! That is what we were designed for. The result of nurturing friendships and family will result in fulfillment and satisfaction.

It is important to be open and sensitive to the needs of others. When feeling low or discouraged, you need only to look outside yourself and find someone else to lift up. Give, Give, Give! Your money, your talent, your time, your encouragement and your love. Whatever you give away in good will, you will receive more in return.

Do more than people ask of you. Look for ways you can be helpful and don't wait to be asked. Practice asking people about their life, their ideas and their family and listen, listen, listen. Make eye contact and put to memory what people tell you.

Focus only on the event you have at hand and decrease multitasking. Be aware of being too wired to technology. Sometimes it is valuable to turn off the cell phone or computer and engage fully in the task at hand.

Give your time to the things you believe in. Even when the tasks seem mundane, give your full attention to it. Consider that you will reap what you sow, when it comes to your attitude about this.

We are often unable to fix our own problems. But we can be used to help others fix theirs. In this way you fulfill the relationship circle. If you could always fix your own problems you would not need to lean on or build relationships with other people. Zig Zigler said, "You can have anything you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want."

This kind of thinking will help you develop depth of character. By doing so, your future will become more prosperous and fulfilling. During this process, be cautious not to dwell on the past or anticipate the future at the expense of the present.

You need to value the journey and see the rewards that come from building a strong foundation. Much of your direction is determined from your attitude. A good attitude is a product of good thinking. "Where the mind goes, the man follows."

Watch what you are thinking. Don't just think any thought that falls into your head. Use discipline to keep your mind positive and pure. Whether conscious or not, what you have on your mind will manifest itself in your words and actions.

Just as they say "garbage in, garbage out" it is also "goodness in, and goodness out". So what does this mean in regards to building your foundation of wellness? It means everything. Your attitude will affect the opportunities that will shape your future. Henry Ford said, "Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are right!"

Building a strong network of relationships is just one piece of the puzzle. Embrace each piece in your journey with enthusiasm and an outlook of optimism. Believe that when the four corner pieces are firmly in place, you will have created a healthy frame for a lifetime of wellness.

"Wellness Matters" Article Series by Lisa Schilling RN, CPT
Speaker, Writer, Wellness Coach & Consultant

Lisa Schilling is the author of "The Get REAL Guide to Health and Fitness-FIVE STEPS to Create Your Own Personal Wellness Plan" She is juggles life as a doting wife and the mother of three boys, who keep her feet firmly planted on the ground!

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She feels passionate about spreading this message of hope and acceptance to help others be PROactive about their health and not simply REactive. Lisa uses her enthusiasm to inspire people to value and appreciate who they are. She helps people build a bridge from where they are, to where they want to be.

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